Recent content by AppreciateYourHelp

I am so aware of this.

He HAD the kids. I was trying to pick them up from him.

Thank you. I have come to the point of wanting to just forget about it. I still do feel vulnerable about the visitation situation, though.

Sorry I wasn't clear, those events were around the time of the divorce. The reason I brought them up is they remind me how he gets when he feels threatened, and that's making me feel very reticent to try to do anything legally. By the way, the children have been in counseling, one still is. And...

To be clear, the things I described were what I was reliving from the past while reading those emails. The worst of it was during and right after the divorce. I mentioned those things because that is how he acts when he feels threatened, and reliving them are making me wonder whether it is worth...

I think the email did that. I asked the therapist if she had heard anything about the inquiry and she said no, once she submits it she's out of the loop.

I understand what you are saying about appearances. But concern for their well being is a constant. It's why I spent thousands trying to get full custody to begin with, years ago. The entire intervening decade have been about doing this crazy dance trying to adhere to what the judge ordered...

I have to assume I am not supposed to know that he won't benefit from the child tax credit, because our mutual tax preparer informally told me. Not exactly something I can use without getting him in trouble, I assume. Is it not enough that he would outright purely profit from his kids if he got...

Thank you. Good to know.

Yep. Sigh.

This (therapeutic visitation) was the kind of thing that I was hoping would emerge from the investigation, that never concluded. Some sort of directive or suggestions based on their findings. But I should say that when I asked her if she would like to do therapy sessions with her father, my...

What is the name of your state? Hawaii Among other things (I have a question posted about the decree and claiming dependents) I am considering trying to get full physical and legal custody of our 12yo and 15yo children. In preparing for this I wanted to ask about something that seems like kind...

Wow. And by "because you gave him a Form 8332" you mean because he could compel me to give him one via the court, yes? This is all so upsetting. If he gets this credit either he is profiting off one of two basically estranged children or he is causing their tax benefit to be lost (because of...

Thank you so very much. Your thoughtful response cleared things up extremely well. I now understand where the IRS concerns end and the state's concerns begin, and what my choices are. It's always such a hard decision, whether to poke the bear, as it were. I wonder if I could ask one more...

What is the name of your state? Hawaii My question is, can I claim both kids on my 2020 taxes, even though the decree says he can claim one? Or do I have to go back to court first to try to change the decree? Background: My divorce was final May of 2010. We have two children, aged 12 and 15...