Recent content by gamom34t

You can read everyone else's (including your own) situation into mine if it makes you feel better. I've taken the steps to correct something I should have handled long ago which was in part my own fault. If I ever have a "windfall", it will be from my OWN hard work and not from some person who...

Just a final word before I close this thread, CSE worker stated this week that child support dated back to the paternity test is not GUARANTEED but it IS the judge's decision and it has been included. I can live with that. For all parents out there struggling with these issues, the other party...

If you want anything done quickly, go ahead and get an attorney.

No I'm not expecting any kind of windfall. As a matter of fact I will be surprised if he ever pays. And you're right, I blame myself too but that doesn't make him exempt from responsibility. This is the THIRD time he's been filed against. Point being, my child is not doing without nor will...

i think we should all go together and invent a new system applicable for all states. one that anyone with a job has be entered into. that way, all we have to do to locate any parent who owes is punch in their social... voila! auto-deduct! and if the states already have something like this...

is it really YOUR money or the kids'?? it is my sole opinion that you should have taken what you could get when it was offered instead of continuing to complain about it here. there are plenty of parents who aren't getting anything. some of us, including you, may never get a dime. maybe your...

Aggravation If anyone is living in a dream world, it's him, not me. Whether or not back child support is awarded is NOT the basis of my intent to force him to be responsible for a percentage of raising this child. And trust me, nothing can be more aggravating than him pretending to be super...

No one is having an issue with the fact that GA has to file paperwork thru LA nor does it bother me that we fall under LA guidelines although the child lives in GA. The caseworker didn't imply anything different. But I would think that if both LA and GA don't do retro support to date of...

LdiJ you're exactly right and "willing" is the key word. infringing on his current lifestyle would be too much. ;)

djworza.. yes i was there too and yet i have been the only responsible parent in this whole situation. he does have a responsibility to HER not to me. he fooled me once but he won't fool me again.

Then I guess my next question would be... why would the director of the state office of cse here even suggest this or put it into the documentation if it would not be an option?? I highly doubt she's clueless or incapable. It's not that I'm trying to drain my ex for revenge, it's no longer...

I guess it will be a wait and see kind of thing then. I think each circumstance is different and that it's all up to the judge. And even if we're not entitled to back support, at least we won't go seven more years without making him responsible for his actions.

I thought that was the case too but my state CSE caseworker says differently. She states that it has to be filed in the state he resides because that is where he is employed. She also says that since he willingly took the paternity test and has openly admitted to being my child's father, he...

Sarah.. thanks for your input. The state of GA is filing against him in LA. I just can't find anything that says whether or not LA does retro or not.

Georgia No I can do my own legwork. Each state is different with their own set of guidelines and LA seems to be the most vague. If someone else out there has gone through a similar situation, I'd like to hear about it. And as for taking legal advice from my adversary, that will never happen!