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What is the name of your state? California. Situation: My wife has a 21-year old daughter who is a Crystal Meth Addict. The daughter lives with her father (my wife's ex-husband), because she cannot take care of herself. She has an 11-month old baby (she was clean during the entire...

CALIFORNIA. My wife and I bought our home in 2002. It was a former duplex, convereted to a single family home. The upstairs kitchen was turned into a master bath. Downstairs, a non-load-bearing wall was knocked through to provide access to the living room from upstairs. Now we want to put our...

Thank you all I have read and re-read the postings in this thread and I appreciate the advice. Nagol818: we would never disparage the father to the child. We too hope that he will eventually mature into someone the child might want a relationship with. BelizeBreeze: thanks for the info on...

keyzblewz: thank as well Thanks fore the detailed responses. One question I just asked Ldij also: Even though the child does not bear his name, he is listed on the birth certificate (rather than 'Father Unknown'). Does that alter his need to prove paternity in court?

Ldij: Thanks again Understood. We will tread carefully. However: even though the child does not bear his name, he is listed on the birth certificate (rather than 'Father Unknown'). Does that alter his need to prove paternity in court?

BelizeBreeze: Easy, Tiger... Your judgement was uncalled for and way off-base. 1. I did not judge this man. I merely stated simple verifiable facts about his situation. 2. My wife and I extended every courtesy and every form of assistance to this man, in the hope that he would get his act...

Ldij: thank you Thank you for giving me some of the feedback I was looking for. We will contact the nastiest most aggressive lawyer we can find and tak eit from there. Question: if we go to court about his visitation rights and we countersue for child support, what are the chances that the...

stealth2's advice Stealth2, That's quite a judgemental call to make from such a distance. We had no intention of 'enabling' anybody. We are both educated and we know dysfunctional behavior when we see it. We had no control over our daughter's life choices until recently. And it's one thing to...

And to clarify When I say he has no family, I mean no family that can take him in, shelter him, support him. His brothers are all like him, living like cockroaches, crashing with this 'friend' or the other until they get kicked out and move on to the next victim. His parents are dead. His...

To VeronicaGia 1. We know we don't have any rights tot he child at this point. My question is: what are our options to OBTAIN those rights? The father has been delinquent from day 1. He lives completely under the radar and did not even have a social security number until a couple of months ago...

Thanks - more info There is no current legal custody arrangement. Even if we adopted the grandchild, our daughter would retain full practical custody for all intents and purposes. This would only be done as a legal maneuver to excise this man from our lives (hopefully backed by a restraining...

CALIFORNIA Our daughter made a poor choice in boyfriends a while back. She became pregnant and had a beautiful baby girl. The father is unemployed, has no credit, no driver's license and has led a hand-to-mouth existence which involved a lot of petty crime and a lot of drugs (Crystal Meth)...