A little help please

[LdiJ]

No Proserpina a court hasn't declared him unfit, if you care to reread my post I have edited it accordingly. I hope that somebody can understand that this is emotional for me to discuss and I do have a lot of anger for my stepsons father.I do not show it when my stepson asks about him but it is hard. All I ever tell him is that he loves him and misses him. I angered some poster named silverlplum, i did edit the post, it anyone finds it derogatory that dad wont work and gets high and drunk very often than I cant help that. Do those things not matter in court???? Really looking for help here and trying not to offend.

Is his paternity established? Did he sign the AOP at the hospital and is he on the child's birth certificate?

There is a chance (and you would need to discuss this with an adoption attorney) that his rights could be involuntarily terminated based on abandonment.

However, you also need to understand that adoption is a HUGE deal. If you adopt either of these children you will be their father for life, with all of the obligations and responsibilities that go with that, even if you and mom do not stay together. You are very young. You may want to give yourself some more time before you seriously consider taking on that kind of obligation.

How old is your wife?..and if she is as young as you are, then why the heck wasn't the father prosecuted for statutory rape? If he is late 30's early 40's now, then nine years ago his butt could have been nailed for getting a 15 year old pregnant if your wife is as young as you are.

 

[MomandDad2006]

Ld, yes he did sign the AOP at birth and he is listed on the birth Cert.

We have read that it could constitute abandonment even with no court orders. We have also read about extreme paternal disinterest, and I see its been asked about here as well on other threads but theres not really an answer given herer or elsewhere, I say you just draw from the obvious and say it means that he has a real disinterest in his son since he hasn't made any efforts to be involved in anyway. Mans got rights and if he feels like he says he does and its all my wife's fault he isn't involved than he could take her to court. He don't so I have my own opinion of what that means.

My wife turned 28 in February, she is a little older than me, made me have to try harder to show her I was serious about being with her. Thanks again