State PA; My eldest son is an Airman. This is such a long story and very sad, I need advice on how I can help my 23 year old son. I will make the history of this problem short so that I can get to the problem. My Son dated a young girl on and off for two years. He is 4 years older than her. When he went to boot camp she decided that she could not live without him and wanted him to marry her. He at that time had his head on straight and told her that when he got his credit and bills straightened out and they could live without to much struggle they could then consider marriage. He went to training. I think he fell into the mind set that alot of them do, that this is real and maybe it would be better to not be alone. Any way she messed with his mind, convinced him that she loved him and that she was ready to be his wife. He trusted and believed her. Four months later he flew home one weekend while still in training and married her by a PA justice of the peace.Despite our best effort to at least give it a year before marriage. The day he married her he flew back that night to his training post. I didn't trust her, so I insisted that she stay with us until he finished training in 4 more weeks. She did by the next day she said she was going to babysit her sisters kids but instead continued the affair she had already started. I knew she just wanted to leave "Mommy's" house and rules and have someone take care of her. I suspected she was carring on an affair but, I didn't have any proof until the day they left for his new duty station. Once there several states away, She told my son that she was having an affair and had every intention of continuing it. They lived off base because housing was full on that base. She told him that since her name was on the lease, she would continue to live there, but she would also move her boyfriend in with her. My Son was devastated and told her and her "friend" to leave. They moved upstairs with friends they made while he was home but continued to live in the apartment when he was gone. Neither wife or boyfriend wanted a job. Someone in the complex told the wife that she had every right to be in that apartment and that she could have anyone she wanted to stay with her. Under that particular State Law anyone who resides in someone elses apartment for two weeks becomes a resident of that apartment. When my Son told me this I did check the accuracy of that information and yes, It is quite true. My Son and his wife never consumated the marriage because she refused and told him she would report him for rape if he asked her again. I called the family counsel center from the office of the Chaplin. I was told that Security Forces would remove the boyfriend because the apartment is also under the jurisdiction of the Military. However, My Son could lose his placement. My Son said that they are downsizing the Job's with the A.F. He was afraid that any kind of investigation could jeapordize his job. I believe that he is so emotionally distraught and that he seems to have some sort of co-dependent personality where this girl is concerned that he has convinced himself that he will take her anyway he can. When you talk to him you hear hurt and despair in his voice that it breaks my heart. This is not who he is, We all know that know the person we know as Son & Brother is just a shell of his former self. I do not think he is emotionally capable to handle this particular situation. He works everyday and got permission to work a second job to help with his credit he needs to fix for his security clearance,( which on a foot note the A.F. knew of all of his financial obligations and his credit score before he went to bootcamp. So I don't know how they could revoke his Security Clearance.) He works his second job 25-35 hours a week He says he does that so that he doesn't have to face the situation of his marriage. He did go see a doctor for depression, but the Dr told him if he prescribed a anti depressant it would hurt his job placement because he would have to report the prescripiton. My question is, Is there anyway, that I can report the wife for adultery and fraud on behalf of my son? and isin't it true that he would have to file for divorce with the state instead of the Military?? At one point, she took his ATM card and drained the account with the exception of 1 dollar. He was so upset because he had auto pay set up for his school loans and car payments, In fact he was so distraught that his friend called me because he feared for my sons life. When I called the wife and told her to replace the money, Her reply to me was Don't Mess with me, I will distroy your son, go report me I dare you. directly after that phone call is when I recieved the call from my sons friend. I did not know what law to follow so I called the County Sheriffs office in his county and had someone sent over to the apartment as I was in a different state, to make sure he was ok. This is such a mess and it seems that the laws are protecting her and the boyfriend instead of my Son. I know my Son, and I know he can no longer handle this situation I also know that he has deluded himself into thinking that one day she will love him if she would just give him a chance. I just want her as far away from him as possible. But I also don't want to take the other thing that so far has seen him through and that he loves and that is his place in the AirForce. What can I do? Please advise me.