Adopting My Soon To Be Stepchild

[Tayshia]

I'm kind of new to all of this but I do have a few questions because of something I am considering. I love my fiancé and I love his daughter too. I want to adopt her but first I need to know. Do I need the mother's consent to adopt her if my fiancé has full custody? I know it may sound stupid to ask but I don't know if she would consent to it. I understand she is the mother but she is barely in this childs life. She sees her maybe three times a year. This child needs a mother and I am more than willing to step up to the plate. Do I need the mothers consent..?

 

[adjusterjack]

Do I need the mother's consent to adopt her if my fiancé has full custody?

The extent of custody doesn't matter. You would need the consent of the mother.

I know it may sound stupid to ask but I don't know if she would consent to it.

Ask her. Might as well get it over with.

I understand she is the mother but she is barely in this childs life.

Doesn't matter.

She sees her maybe three times a year.

Doesn't matter.

This child needs a mother and I am more than willing to step up to the plate.

You can be a mother without a piece of paper.

I never got consent from my stepkids' bio father, but I raised them. They are in their 40s and I'm still their Dad. They haven't seen their mother in decades.

By the way, you're not married yet so you wouldn't be able to adopt anyway. Even when you are married the courts will look to a year or two of stability before stripping the mother of parental rights.

 

[Just Blue]

I'm kind of new to all of this but I do have a few questions because of something I am considering. I love my fiancé and I love his daughter too. I want to adopt her but first I need to know. Do I need the mother's consent to adopt her if my fiancé has full custody? I know it may sound stupid to ask but I don't know if she would consent to it. I understand she is the mother but she is barely in this childs life. She sees her maybe three times a year. This child needs a mother and I am more than willing to step up to the plate. Do I need the mothers consent..?

U.S. Law Only. What is the name of your state?

The ^ is the question asked when you started your thread...Why didn't you post it?

 

[CTU]

I'm kind of new to all of this but I do have a few questions because of something I am considering. I love my fiancé and I love his daughter too. I want to adopt her but first I need to know. Do I need the mother's consent to adopt her if my fiancé has full custody? I know it may sound stupid to ask but I don't know if she would consent to it. I understand she is the mother but she is barely in this childs life. She sees her maybe three times a year. This child needs a mother and I am more than willing to step up to the plate. Do I need the mothers consent..?

Oh lawt.

Well, Tayshia, you didn't tell us where you live. We need to know which US state.

After that ... well, take a seat.

This child already has a mother. That person is not you. That person will only ever be you if you marry your fiance, and Mom agrees to a stepparent adoption.

Outside of that, the answer is "nope".

Hope that helps.

 

[Just Blue]

The extent of custody doesn't matter. You would need the consent of the mother.



Ask her. Might as well get it over with.



Doesn't matter.



Doesn't matter.



You can be a mother without a piece of paper.

I never got consent from my stepkids' bio father, but I raised them. They are in their 40s and I'm still their Dad. They haven't seen their mother in decades.

By the way, you're not married yet so you wouldn't be able to adopt anyway. Even when you are married the courts will look to a year or two of stability before stripping the mother of parental rights.

We don't know if OP is actually in the US.