Silverplum
Senior Member
I have just read that my step son cant call me dad because it could cause my wife to lose her rights, which sounds ridiculous, but is there any truth to that.
Not that Mom would lose her parental rights -- that's just dannyt/kelly, our "forum troll," who finds it necessary

There is a bit of truth, though -- you are not the father, and you should not be usurping the father's name. When you are the dad, you can be called "Dad." Many, many judges do NOT like for steps/nonrelated persons to be called by the title without the legal right. Often, lying to the child is involved, and that isn't right or good for anyone. (That was the very short version.)
All things in their time. Adopt, then be Dad.