What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
I went to a party when I was 17. I don't remember most of the night (underage drinking) - very stupid decision. I ended up marrying my bf before my daughter was born. Our marriage fell apart after a few years, he took one of those home paternity tests that you send in, was found to not be the father and we got divorced at my insistence when we couldn't work things out - no visitation, full custody to me, rights to child support reserved. We talked and my ex and I agreed to try and disestablish paternity. I didn't realize we could do that during our divorce. We were told we had to disestablish in the state she was born so we did in WA state and it was granted (when she was two and a half). I remarried recently (she is now 7) and my husband has been in her life since she was 3. We have been talking about adoption, but I'm not sure how to go about it with me being the only one listed on her birth certificate. I don't remember much of that night. My daughter knows my husband is not her biological father but a 'daddy who loves her'. Is adoption even possible? I'm so worried that if something happens to me that she will be torn away from my husband and given to the state because no one else is listed on her birth certificate.
I went to a party when I was 17. I don't remember most of the night (underage drinking) - very stupid decision. I ended up marrying my bf before my daughter was born. Our marriage fell apart after a few years, he took one of those home paternity tests that you send in, was found to not be the father and we got divorced at my insistence when we couldn't work things out - no visitation, full custody to me, rights to child support reserved. We talked and my ex and I agreed to try and disestablish paternity. I didn't realize we could do that during our divorce. We were told we had to disestablish in the state she was born so we did in WA state and it was granted (when she was two and a half). I remarried recently (she is now 7) and my husband has been in her life since she was 3. We have been talking about adoption, but I'm not sure how to go about it with me being the only one listed on her birth certificate. I don't remember much of that night. My daughter knows my husband is not her biological father but a 'daddy who loves her'. Is adoption even possible? I'm so worried that if something happens to me that she will be torn away from my husband and given to the state because no one else is listed on her birth certificate.