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mavrick
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I live in Iowa and have 2 children ages 11 and 13. Since 1994 I have remarried and this man has been the father they never had. Now after being divorced for 10 years (the first 4 years he had very minimal contact) and then 6 years of no contact with the kids the real father wants to be in the picture but has proven himself at this point it is not for the children considering he has called them a looser,spineless *******s,etc....He infact offered to the children to have the stepfather to go ahead and draw up the adoption papers if he had the balls to do it. (what kind of man talks to children like this? the mental abuse has gotten terrible, even the kids therapist has even seen he is not in this for the children. My ex has turned this into a legal game of "whoever runs out of money first is the looser" He continues to throw contempt charges on me for denying visitation.However he has gotten his visitation and they changed it to supervised visits. Last month was the first unsupervised visit and the kids took off on him for the way he was treating them with the name calling. We then brought them back to him and he belittled them and said now they have a criminal record and their mother is in contept and will go to jail for this. I just want to know ourlegal rights for the kids, they do not want to have anything to do with him, they beg for the stepfather to adopt them and want the mental abuse to stop. We beg for an answer of what our rights are wheather it is to turn him in for abuse, know the stepfather can adopt without his permission or press some kind of charges on him for what he is doing to these children.The harrasment has to stop, we have tried working with the man on several attempts to give him his fair share and by doing this we now know that it is not for the kids it is to get back at me. Our family needs to laugh again and be the way we were before he started this mess!