JnT4Bama07
Junior Member
(We live in Shelby County, Alabama). My divorce from my ex husband was final in November of 2007. I married my current husband in May of 2008. I packed mine and my children's things and left my ex-husband because he had a serious drug problem (cocaine and other Prescription pain meds) and repeatedly cheated, and was dishonest. I stayed with him for 7 years in hopes that he would get the help he needed, and be a good husband and father. He refused over and over to get help, and I wanted a much better life for my children, so I packed up and left. When I did, he moved back to Florida (where is from). He saw our daughter only 3 times in the year 2007, November 2007 being the last time. He was originally going to be ordered to pay $894 per month for child support. He said that was too much, and he could not afford it. I respected that, and tried to work with him, asking what he thought was fair, as I only wanted and expected him to do his part. He stated that $625 is what he could afford, so I agreed...again, only wanting him to do his part. He LIED in court about his place of employment, and was NEVER employed with the company he stated that he was...so that he couldn't be forced to pay child support. He then got in a lot of trouble, and spent a year in prison. He got out of prison in February and was put in a COURT ORDERED rehab facility (supposedly for 18 months)..Even in the time that he was out of prison or between prison and rehab, we did not hear from him except for TWICE when his, then, girlfriend made sure that he called. He still has not sent letters, called to see how our almost 6 year old daughter is or anything. I TRIED going through DHR to get child support from him since he was supposed to start paying in October of 2007, and has NEVER Paid a dime, but my case worker stated that the state of FLORIDA refused any help because he WAS in prison and is now in a COURT ORDERED rehab facility. She also stated that she didn't think he would be forced to pay back child support for the time he was in prison or rehab. I think that is CRAP because he did that to himself. Regardless of where he is or what he is doing, I am still taking care of and supporting our beautiful & smart, 5 year old daughter! And I feel that it is unfair that he can just skate right on by with out any consequences what so ever for being a dead beat father!
My current husband has been the BEST thing to walk into mine or my children's lives..having never been married or had children of his own, he accepts my children as his own! We have talked a lot about the idea of him adopting my children, and he wants to, BUT, money is currently an issue. What are the steps we should take so that he can adopt my daughter? Who do we talk to? What do we do? Where do we begin? Then, my ex husband can continue his life in Florida, and I won't be forced to let my daughter have visitation with a man I do not trust, if he chooses to come back around at some point! Thank you for any and all help!!What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My current husband has been the BEST thing to walk into mine or my children's lives..having never been married or had children of his own, he accepts my children as his own! We have talked a lot about the idea of him adopting my children, and he wants to, BUT, money is currently an issue. What are the steps we should take so that he can adopt my daughter? Who do we talk to? What do we do? Where do we begin? Then, my ex husband can continue his life in Florida, and I won't be forced to let my daughter have visitation with a man I do not trust, if he chooses to come back around at some point! Thank you for any and all help!!What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
