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[wtracy36]

What is the name of your state Pennsylvania

Hello

My name is Wendy Tracy. My husband, Robin and I were involved in a legal custody battle in 1996, when our first daughter was born. After she was born, Robin's parents, had us sign temporary custody papers, so they could have my daughter permanently because they felt I was not capable to care for her. At the end of that court hearing, we were awarded custody of her permanently. This court hearing took place in West Virginia.

In 1997-1998, my husband and I were going through a divorce and the court decided to put her in foster care because we were not stable in our relationship, and also there was an issue that she had been abused sexually while she was in my care because apparently Robin's parents took her to peditrician and they took slides of her vagina and said the her hyman had been broken. Robin and his mom took me to this doctor to have them show me the slides, but they would not let me look at her medical records. Maybe she was abused sexually, but not while in my care. I don't really think she was abused sexually at all they just said that so they could obtain custody of her themselves. I stopped the divorce and got back with Robin and the court awarded custody of her to Robin's brother and we both paid child support to him for a short while, until he gave her to his parents. Did they legally adopt her? My husband Robin states that we signed papers giving up our parenting rights, but I don't remember signing any.

I hope I can get help with this matter.

Sincerely

Wendy Tracy

 

[Proserpina]

Please edit your post to remove ALL real names.

You need to go to the court house and request copies of all documents relating to the case.

What has happened to make you question it after this length of time?

 

[wtracy36]

Documents pertaining to one case is in West Virginia, which took place shortly after she was born. The second case took place in Ohio, but my husbands parents lived in West Virginia when they got her. The reason for questioning it now is because she has stated why she does not look like any of them and she thinks she was adopted. She has no idea that my husband and I are her parents and his mother wants to tell her the truth when the timing is right. This same woman came out of her house waving a pistol around saying we would never get her back.

 

[Proserpina]

Documents pertaining to one case is in West Virginia, which took place shortly after she was born. The second case took place in Ohio, but my husbands parents lived in West Virginia when they got her. The reason for questioning it now is because she has stated why she does not look like any of them and she thinks she was adopted. She has no idea that my husband and I are her parents and his mother wants to tell her the truth when the timing is right. This same woman came out of her house waving a pistol around saying we would never get her back.

Then again, you need to get in touch with the court house where the case was filed.

How old is this child now?

Why, if she was adopted, are you still in contact?

 

[mistoffolees]

Documents pertaining to one case is in West Virginia, which took place shortly after she was born. The second case took place in Ohio, but my husbands parents lived in West Virginia when they got her. The reason for questioning it now is because she has stated why she does not look like any of them and she thinks she was adopted. She has no idea that my husband and I are her parents and his mother wants to tell her the truth when the timing is right. This same woman came out of her house waving a pistol around saying we would never get her back.

I would be very careful. Lots of red flags here.

First, the girl is around 14 - a very difficult age. It needs to be handled very carefully.

Second, if 'this same woman' is running around the house waving a gun around, there are likely to be other problems to deal with.

Finally, why did she say that you would never get her back? Have you been making noise about that?

 

[wtracy36]

The child is age 13, but she will be 14 in October. I do get to see her when I go over with my husband to his parents, but a friend of mine, her son was helping my father in law with yard work around their house, and my mother in law told him that I was nothing but a trouble maker and if he ever told her the truth about her background there would be trouble. What they have been telling her about me is bad stuff and this same boy invited her to his 16th birthday party, but she was not allowed to be there because I was there.

The reason she said we would never get her back because she thought we were not capable as parents to care for her. After she was born, I was hospitalized for post partum depression, well she had never heard of that until that time. She thought it was because I didn't want my child, but that's not the case, I love all my kids.

 

[mistoffolees]

The reason she said we would never get her back because she thought we were not capable as parents to care for her. After she was born, I was hospitalized for post partum depression, well she had never heard of that until that time. She thought it was because I didn't want my child, but that's not the case, I love all my kids.

That's all well and good, but why is she suddenly, after 13+ years, waving a gun around and make an issue of something that hasn't been a problem for 13+ years? It sounds like you've been suggesting to her in some way that you WANT to take the child back.

 

[wtracy36]

She waved the gun around shortly after my daughter was born, not now. I have not suggested to her about taking the child back.

 

[wtracy36]

I think she was not adopted, my husbands parents are her legal guardians instead. I'll be getting the case files this week to review, but at this point my in-laws do not want me over at their house to see my oldest daughter now. That's not okay with me because I would like to be able to talk to her.