After 7 years we are finally going to court

[Feeny511]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MA
So after seven years me and my sons father will be going to court. We were together for the first year of my sons life. I left him and it did not go very well. It ended with me getting a restraining order on him. It went three years of no word from him. He called out of the blue and we decided to meet up and talk, he ended up seeing him for a few months. Told me he was still in love with me and when I told him that we were never going to get back together he faded away for another 3 years. He called a few months ago out of the blue again. He has seen him a handful of times. We are trying to get on a set schedule starting slow till my son is more comfortable. I am just curious with this type of history, what should we expect in court. We have been very civil with eachother thank god because it has not always been like that.

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MA
So after seven years me and my sons father will be going to court. We were together for the first year of my sons life. I left him and it did not go very well. It ended with me getting a restraining order on him. It went three years of no word from him. He called out of the blue and we decided to meet up and talk, he ended up seeing him for a few months. Told me he was still in love with me and when I told him that we were never going to get back together he faded away for another 3 years. He called a few months ago out of the blue again. He has seen him a handful of times. We are trying to get on a set schedule starting slow till my son is more comfortable. I am just curious with this type of history, what should we expect in court. We have been very civil with eachother thank god because it has not always been like that.

dad will need to establish custody. more often then not, a judge will almost agree to anything a civil couple will agree to. a graduated schedule is very agreeable. something with visitation with you present (or another third party you and dad agree on) frequent is suggested. twice a week for a few hours, for a few weeks. then a few hours a 2-3 times a week without you or third party. worki g your way to full days, then overnights, then eventually weekends and evening dinners....

just a personal suggestion, you might want to consider therapy for son and dad. nothing too formal. son might have questions, a therapist might be able to help dad answer questions and deal with dad's absence. i just happen to love therapy (maybe there's something wrong with me? ) and it's effects.

 

[Feeny511]

He is on the birth certificate so does that mean custody is already established? And, I love the idea of counciling, just not sure his dad would go for it. Also, his father just graduated and is not working at the moment. He is not sure if he will be getting a job or going into law school. What will happen with child support. I am so use to not having it that it really wont affect me all that much but he had alot of questions about that?

 

[meanyjack]

He is on the birth certificate so does that mean custody is already established?

No. You could put Mike Wazowski (name that movie) on the birth certificate and that doesn't mean anything.

And who put him on the birth certificate?

 

[Perky]

No. You could put Mike Wazowski (name that movie) on the birth certificate and that doesn't mean anything.

And who put him on the birth certificate?

Are you sure about this??

Since 1994, MA has required a signed AOP before listing a father on the birth certificate, according to what I found. So, if the father is on the birth certificate, paternity is already legally established.

 

[Ohiogal]

Are you sure about this??

Since 1994, MA has required a signed AOP before listing a father on the birth certificate, according to what I found. So, if the father is on the birth certificate, paternity is already legally established.

Sorta. He has agreed that he is the father and declared his paternity. HOWEVER, the court has NOT recognized it.

Presenting the AOP will prove to the court paternity.

And the movie is Monsters, Inc.