mommyblues
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
I have been going through hell with my sons father for the past 6 yrs since I gave him custody in order for me to go back to school. I gave him custody when the child was 2 (I became pregnant with my son at 15, father was 19 at the time.. im now 24). my son is now 8 years old and his father has tried everything in his power to keep me from seeing my son out of hatred and bitterness. in the past he has refused to show up for my visitations several of which I police reports for but the court never did anything about it. well 2 years ago I planned to move to Atlanta and discuss this with the father he threatened to never let me see my son if I moved so I turned down opportunities for school in order to stay in ny. a month later my son was visiting my home and after an argument with his father over the phone, the father called the police on me twice saying I was abusing my son. I was forced to take my son to the hospital to be examined and meet with a social worker, after all that they found no truth to his claims and let us return home. since that day the father made false allegations against me first saying I was physically abusing, and starving my son during our visits. so my visits were suspended while child services investigated the claims. this case was dropped as well because his allegations were "unfound". when I found out the case was dismisses I was very excited because I would get to see my son again, but a few days after receiving the dismissal letter I received a phone call from another person from child services at 11pm at night saying my son has accused me of sexually abusing him, and forcing him to clean my home, and neglect. I really thought this was a joke and couldn't believe child services would allow them to make more allegations after the first was dismissed. the difference in this 2nd case was now the father was forcing my son to say bad things about me, and child services said they had to prevent me from seeing him. after this I was as frustrated as any mother would be when I ran into my sons father there was a heated argument he pushed me and I threw my cup of coffee at him. this action led to him getting an order of protection against me. Then I missed a court date and the next time I showed there was a order of protection for me to stay away from my son and the father for 2 yrs. And I had no lawyer through this whole process and I felt the justice system wasn't on my side at all. .....
2 yrs later. and I truly feel like pursuing any kind of visitation will be just as pointless as it has been in the past. I think its in my sons best interest for him to not go through the back a forth in court any longer. the last time was the worse and im sure it will have psychological and emotional effects on him.... the father is now married. and I want him and his wife to adopt my son. so that I may be out of the picture all together. He has been very unreasonable and manipulative in the past, and all of his actions show that he will stop at nothing to make my life miserable if I try to see my son.
***My question is how do I approach them to suggest adoption? or I there any way for me to terminate my parental rights so that I am no longer involved in this never ending nightmare?
I have been going through hell with my sons father for the past 6 yrs since I gave him custody in order for me to go back to school. I gave him custody when the child was 2 (I became pregnant with my son at 15, father was 19 at the time.. im now 24). my son is now 8 years old and his father has tried everything in his power to keep me from seeing my son out of hatred and bitterness. in the past he has refused to show up for my visitations several of which I police reports for but the court never did anything about it. well 2 years ago I planned to move to Atlanta and discuss this with the father he threatened to never let me see my son if I moved so I turned down opportunities for school in order to stay in ny. a month later my son was visiting my home and after an argument with his father over the phone, the father called the police on me twice saying I was abusing my son. I was forced to take my son to the hospital to be examined and meet with a social worker, after all that they found no truth to his claims and let us return home. since that day the father made false allegations against me first saying I was physically abusing, and starving my son during our visits. so my visits were suspended while child services investigated the claims. this case was dropped as well because his allegations were "unfound". when I found out the case was dismisses I was very excited because I would get to see my son again, but a few days after receiving the dismissal letter I received a phone call from another person from child services at 11pm at night saying my son has accused me of sexually abusing him, and forcing him to clean my home, and neglect. I really thought this was a joke and couldn't believe child services would allow them to make more allegations after the first was dismissed. the difference in this 2nd case was now the father was forcing my son to say bad things about me, and child services said they had to prevent me from seeing him. after this I was as frustrated as any mother would be when I ran into my sons father there was a heated argument he pushed me and I threw my cup of coffee at him. this action led to him getting an order of protection against me. Then I missed a court date and the next time I showed there was a order of protection for me to stay away from my son and the father for 2 yrs. And I had no lawyer through this whole process and I felt the justice system wasn't on my side at all. .....
2 yrs later. and I truly feel like pursuing any kind of visitation will be just as pointless as it has been in the past. I think its in my sons best interest for him to not go through the back a forth in court any longer. the last time was the worse and im sure it will have psychological and emotional effects on him.... the father is now married. and I want him and his wife to adopt my son. so that I may be out of the picture all together. He has been very unreasonable and manipulative in the past, and all of his actions show that he will stop at nothing to make my life miserable if I try to see my son.
***My question is how do I approach them to suggest adoption? or I there any way for me to terminate my parental rights so that I am no longer involved in this never ending nightmare?
