Another question for friend in Texas

[maryjo]

What is the name of your state? Texas

My best friend, that i have posted about before, is having more issues with her ex. Her ex was court ordered to supervised visits with their son for one hour every other weekend I think it was. He never showed up for any of them. He has also never paid child support saying instead that he lost his job. Now he says that its not his fault it hasnt been paid, they were supposed to be taking it out of his check.

Anyway, he refused to go to supervised visitation saying it wasnt a good environment for him to see his child in. Whatever. LOL! Since his visiation was cancelled because he never showed up for any of them, they are basically at a stand still until the next court date. I thought it was a week or so ago but that was for him for something else. A car accident he was involved in that killed someone. They dont go back until August or something like that.

For some reason he keeps telling her that since his supervised visiation was cancelled that means he can now see their son whenever he wants to. He keeps calling and begging her to see him, begging her for money, giving her endless guilt trips. And now he has another man doing the same thing on his behalf.

Today he called and threatened to take their son and leave the country. How he will do that if he doesnt have money I dont know. BUT...is there someone she should call and report this behavior to? He was in the ER yesterday for a supposed break down. He is getting more and more unstable. Is there anything to protect her and their son? What should she do? She doesnt have a lawyer or anything.

 

[seniorjudge]

Q: Is there anything to protect her and their son?

A: Yes; she should never allow him to be with the kid alone or where he could abduct the kid.

 

[maryjo]

Q: Is there anything to protect her and their son?

A: Yes; she should never allow him to be with the kid alone or where he could abduct the kid.

She doesnt let him. He begs and begs but she refuses. But there is nothing to stop him from taking him by force I suppose. Or from going to his school and taking him from there.

 

[BL]

If he or friends call and harasses her , she should try and get a restraining order . She should call the phone Co. about harassing phone calls , and possibly the police .

Here , sometimes a police officer will call the caller and tell them to stop calling or else .

She should contact school personnel , bus drivers , etc . with the order in hand and have them make sure he is not allowed to take the child off the property , or for that matter even see the child as per court order .

 

[LdiJ]

If he or friends call and harasses her , she should try and get a restraining order . She should call the phone Co. about harassing phone calls , and possibly the police .

Here , sometimes a police officer will call the caller and tell them to stop calling or else .

She should contact school personnel , bus drivers , etc . with the order in hand and have them make sure he is not allowed to take the child off the property , or for that matter even see the child as per court order .

I echo this advice. She should attempt to get a restraining order AND inform the school that he is only allowed supervised visits with the child, and make sure that the school agrees not to allow him access to the child.

His behavior clearly indicates that he is not thinking rationally. I don't want your friend to end up on the news. She also needs to take steps to ensure that she doesn't allow him into her home, for any reason.

 

[maryjo]

Thanks. I will tell her. She tried to get a restraining order after he showed up at her door with a bat and pepper spray but they would only give her, I think it was an order of protection or something like that. Whatever it was, it wasnt enough to keep him away. And the police flat out told her they never enfore them anyway. He has threatened repeatedly to call CPS on her every time she doesnt let him see their son and he says that everyone in his family will as well. So far they havent really followed through on that threat.

He lives in a hotel, he is a drug addict, he said he had lost his job to keep from paying child support but he is still there. She cant figure out how he is still getting paid but child support isnt being taken out unless its under the table. It hasnt been long enough to report it I guess since its only been since the middle of Feb. I think. So he isnt far enough behind yet to make a case out of it. He was sending money to some chick in jail until he found out he wasnt the only one she was hitting up for money and saying she loved. LOL!

He keeps telling her that since his supervised visitation was cancelled that its all over now and she can let him see their son. He also tells her that he talked to someone at the court house who said that since his supervised visitaiton was cancelled that they dont have to go back to court. LOL! NO...she does NOT believe him. LOL!

I just really worry about her because it seems that he is progressively getting worse. Hopefully he is all talk but you never know.

Thanks for the help.

Edited to say that I dont think the school is going to be much help. She has informed them of what is going on and they dont seem to care or be able to remember. Right after all this happend he went in and picked him up from school. Shortly after that her mother went to get him and they didnt even ask to see her id or anything.