Assaulted by Ex Wife's Husband

[mhenley]

New Jersey:
My 10 year old girl was acting up during my Tuesday court ordered visitation and after several warnings I told her that if she didn't stop she would have to miss the Thursday Softball game she plays in. (she plays three times a week) She didn't so I told her that she would miss the game. My ex wife's husband was waiting outside and door and when he saw her crying acame out to the driver's side of the car screaming that if I ever made her cry again he would kill me. This is not a new situation I have a No Contact order from the court to keep him away from me as he assulated me once before I relented and went to mediation. This time I stood my ground and told him they were my kids and I would discipline them as I saw fit with out any interference from him. Then he spit on me several time and punched me in the face three times, infront of several witnesses. Although I was not injured I called the police who arrested him for simple assuault.
What can I do to prevent this from happening again? He seem to never learn. He spent over one year in jail on two occasions for aggrevated assualt, though the last time was more than ten years ago.

 

[Starry809]

keep filing assault charges on him. If there is a restraining order, why was he around you in this situation? If it is in effect, then file charges of violating the restraining order, along with the assault charges. If there is not one in place, get a new one, and use this incident to make it permanent.

New Jersey:
My 10 year old girl was acting up during my Tuesday court ordered visitation and after several warnings I told her that if she didn't stop she would have to miss the Thursday Softball game she plays in. (she plays three times a week) She didn't so I told her that she would miss the game. My ex wife's husband was waiting outside and door and when he saw her crying acame out to the driver's side of the car screaming that if I ever made her cry again he would kill me. This is not a new situation I have a No Contact order from the court to keep him away from me as he assulated me once before I relented and went to mediation. This time I stood my ground and told him they were my kids and I would discipline them as I saw fit with out any interference from him. Then he spit on me several time and punched me in the face three times, infront of several witnesses. Although I was not injured I called the police who arrested him for simple assuault.
What can I do to prevent this from happening again? He seem to never learn. He spent over one year in jail on two occasions for aggrevated assualt, though the last time was more than ten years ago.

 

[BL]

If there is a restraining order ,carry it at all times with you .If not get a new one . If he violates it ,call the police and show the order to them . They should arrest him .

Maybe he'll get time for the assault .

 

[Zephyr]

I would also talk to your ex and make sure she is aware that if her new hubby is doing the drop offs/pick ups he is in violation of any current ro, and that she should do the pick ups/drop offs because that guy ovbiously cannot control himself.

His agressive and violent behavior might be grounds for change of custody down the line.

 

[mhenley]

Ex Wife Husband Assault

Thanks for your help. He was there because he cares nothing about the No Contact order. Sometimes I'm of the opinion that when a person reaches a certain age, he's 43, that thier personality is set for life.
My ex wife was also present.

 

[Zephyr]

is your ro in effect still?

 

[mhenley]

Ex Wife Husband Assault

I'm not sure. It has been 3 and a half years. Technically it is a No Contact order. I'm not sure in New Jersey if it makes a difference

 

[Zephyr]

definitly get a new one- that should be easy to do- if your old one has run out, make sure it states how far away from you he needs to stay (ex. 150 feet) and every time he breaks it call the police, eventually he could end up putting himself in jail

 

[stealth2]

You need to find out whether your restraining order is temporary or final - did you go to court after the temp one was issued? As best as I can tell, a "no contact order" in our fine state is a temporary restraining order. The only way to get it turned into a FINAL (permanent) RO is by going to court w/in 10 days of the issuance of a no contact order. If you didn't do that, your piece of paper may be totally worthless.

You may want to read here http://www.judiciary.state.nj.us/family/fam-06.htm and here www.state.nj.us/lps/dcj/agguide/dvpolrsp.htm

Also - out of curiousity..... is Thursday your custodial time?

 

[mhenley]

Ex Wife Husband Assault

Thanks. and Oh yeah my visitation tonight should be fun. The kids, I also have a 13 year old son, were pretty traumatized by seeing this guy being dragged out of the house in handcuffs. My ex wife is very pissed off too.
She threatened to file harassment charges against me. Apparently she feels that my face was harassing her husband’s fists.

 

[Zephyr]

well if ex-wfiey had a d$%n brain cell she would not have brought psycho hubby along after he had already assaulted you once!

she's pissed! the nerve!