What is the name of your state? Colorado
I've been divorced from my Ex for 5 years now. He had no interest in parenting the first few years calling only a few times a year and going as long as a year and a half without seeing them at all. Three years ago I got remarried and he even asked my new husband to adopt them so he could avoid child support. I've worked very hard to remain friends with him, despite his desire to only parent on his terms and when it is convienent for him.
My ex just got remarried, both he and his wife are military. He called and asked if he could take the kids for the summer, and I agreed. (There is no actual visitation agreement) I was excited for the kids, they need their father in their life. I sent them despite severe panic attacks, I've never been away from them for more than two weeks at a time. He's never had them for more than a few days at a time...
Three weeks after they went to stay with their Dad I figured out that something was up. He had a five bedroom house, bought the kids all new furniture etc. I finally asked my oldest what was up and she said Daddy said we aren't allowed to talk about it.
I was beyond mad, and confronted him. He and his new wife decided that they were going to keep the kids. They are being transfered to England soon, and were going to take the kids out of the country! I took care of that by pointing him to the divorce agreement... I have full physical custody and kidnapping in the military is a serious charge.
So he agreed to send them home, but demanded a change to the custody agreement giving him summers and holiday breaks. At first I agreed, because I do want them t be with him. I told him he wasn't to pressure the kids about living with him because it was upsetting them to the point of tears and he agreed. Then oldest called in tears again, Daddy stayed out late drinking. Came home drunk and kept her up until 1:30 AM begging her to stay with him. I haven't said anything but I'm not happy!
He has refused to send the kids home until after his wedding date. Which will already put them back nearly a week late for school. (he is in California at the moment) Last week he called and said that he couldn't afford to send them home and wanted to know if I can just come get them. I made arrangements to come get them, and now he says he doesn't want them to come home until after his honeymoon is over so he can say good-bye.
Needless to say my patience has run out, this is the second time he has agreed to transport them to and from California and then found it inconvienent and I've had to scrape up money to go get them. I'm disabled and a 2000 mile trip leaves me exhausted for a week or more.
Like I said he is moving to England, and I'm having serious problems with letting them visit him there. California is bad enough, but that's more than a chunk of change to go get them when he once again finds it inconvienent.
There is no visitation agreement like I said except for this line "as father's military duty allows" I want to refuse to let him take them out of the State again... he is welcome to see them, just not take them so far away.
Is that OK?
I've been divorced from my Ex for 5 years now. He had no interest in parenting the first few years calling only a few times a year and going as long as a year and a half without seeing them at all. Three years ago I got remarried and he even asked my new husband to adopt them so he could avoid child support. I've worked very hard to remain friends with him, despite his desire to only parent on his terms and when it is convienent for him.
My ex just got remarried, both he and his wife are military. He called and asked if he could take the kids for the summer, and I agreed. (There is no actual visitation agreement) I was excited for the kids, they need their father in their life. I sent them despite severe panic attacks, I've never been away from them for more than two weeks at a time. He's never had them for more than a few days at a time...
Three weeks after they went to stay with their Dad I figured out that something was up. He had a five bedroom house, bought the kids all new furniture etc. I finally asked my oldest what was up and she said Daddy said we aren't allowed to talk about it.
I was beyond mad, and confronted him. He and his new wife decided that they were going to keep the kids. They are being transfered to England soon, and were going to take the kids out of the country! I took care of that by pointing him to the divorce agreement... I have full physical custody and kidnapping in the military is a serious charge.
So he agreed to send them home, but demanded a change to the custody agreement giving him summers and holiday breaks. At first I agreed, because I do want them t be with him. I told him he wasn't to pressure the kids about living with him because it was upsetting them to the point of tears and he agreed. Then oldest called in tears again, Daddy stayed out late drinking. Came home drunk and kept her up until 1:30 AM begging her to stay with him. I haven't said anything but I'm not happy!
He has refused to send the kids home until after his wedding date. Which will already put them back nearly a week late for school. (he is in California at the moment) Last week he called and said that he couldn't afford to send them home and wanted to know if I can just come get them. I made arrangements to come get them, and now he says he doesn't want them to come home until after his honeymoon is over so he can say good-bye.
Needless to say my patience has run out, this is the second time he has agreed to transport them to and from California and then found it inconvienent and I've had to scrape up money to go get them. I'm disabled and a 2000 mile trip leaves me exhausted for a week or more.
Like I said he is moving to England, and I'm having serious problems with letting them visit him there. California is bad enough, but that's more than a chunk of change to go get them when he once again finds it inconvienent.
There is no visitation agreement like I said except for this line "as father's military duty allows" I want to refuse to let him take them out of the State again... he is welcome to see them, just not take them so far away.
Is that OK?
