What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX
My ex was never violent with me (altho, in hindsight was very physical when angry. ripped doors off, punted cat, etc) prior to me asking him to leave.
we've only seen eachother maybe 6x outside of court in the last 2 years now, but i've been assaulted 3x and i've called and made reports 2x.
He gave me a concussion last time and the local PD who showed up said "well, call us BEFORE he hits you next time....otherwise it's your word against his"
The next day I spent all day calling courthouse, PD, and every number they told me to call, domestic violence lines they gave me info over.....etc.
*nobody* would help me. the only answer I could get was if my divorce wasn't still pending I could file for a TRO....but since it was still pending....I should have my lawyer do it.
My lawyer was baffled.
Court is over and done with finally, after nearly 2yrs. Finalized in nov.
I'm not a tiny girl, i'm 5'9 and 140lbs, but my ex is 6' and 330lbs. realistically, he could crush me, and has tried to.
the incident in may he got mad over a drill while picking up his remaining stuff in the garage. I had a friend as a witness over, but he had to bring his son and was putting him down for a nap when it happened. Ex's dad and sister were there.
He grabbed me and just tossed me like a ragdoll (I was shocked) into the wall and I hit my head on a roofing nail on some pegboard and had a gooseegg the size of a lime.
What worries me the most is if the kids are around...because my concern is them, not me. I can't protect myself and him.
most of our dropoffs/pickups happen at daycare. I drop in AM, he picks up in PM, and vice versa. We don't usually see eachother.
Everytime he has to come here, everytime I hear a car's breaks outside my office window (I work from home) in the front of the house....I'm worried.
He has escalated his agression, anger, etc with me since seperation over the last two years.
One of my issues among many during our marriage was the fact he blamed everyone else for anything wrong in his life. He has been blaming me for divorce, not paying CS, not having money, living with his parents, driving crappy car, having crappy job....
but it seems to me that the whole "living well is the best revenge" addage is true, but in a bad way.
I'm a BIG neon sign to him that *HE* was the fault now, as my life has improved immeasureably, and this makes him angry.
I still worry each time I have to see him that he'll hurt me, that he'll just snap and maybe do me real harm next time. It's not a "he'll calm down eventually" situation it seems.
Is it too late to file? Will I be granted one do you think?
I've asked him to meet me in public places to do exchange, but it actually makes him madder at me....I've endured several scathing conversations where he accused me of beating on him and lying to people about him hurting me.....as well as him telling the kids "we have to meet mommy here because mommy is a liar and she might hurt daddy"
I feel like if maybe I had a restraining order in place - that if he DOES hurt me again the cops will take it more seriously. the followup detective called me a few weeks later and said "well, not that i want you to get hit, but maybe next time he'll hit you in the fact and we'll have evidence" vs the goose egg hidden by hair I guess.
Right now, it seems like a joke and i'm stressing over it, alone from family and friends.....I don't have help and the police right now seem like they don't car either.
Nor did domestic V numbers give me anything but the run-around....
I feel like maybe if I had one, one of two things....he'd HAVE to meet me in a public place wether I wanted to or not....and if something did happen, i'd have some measure of protection finally.
can anyone offer advice?
My ex was never violent with me (altho, in hindsight was very physical when angry. ripped doors off, punted cat, etc) prior to me asking him to leave.
we've only seen eachother maybe 6x outside of court in the last 2 years now, but i've been assaulted 3x and i've called and made reports 2x.
He gave me a concussion last time and the local PD who showed up said "well, call us BEFORE he hits you next time....otherwise it's your word against his"
The next day I spent all day calling courthouse, PD, and every number they told me to call, domestic violence lines they gave me info over.....etc.
*nobody* would help me. the only answer I could get was if my divorce wasn't still pending I could file for a TRO....but since it was still pending....I should have my lawyer do it.
My lawyer was baffled.
Court is over and done with finally, after nearly 2yrs. Finalized in nov.
I'm not a tiny girl, i'm 5'9 and 140lbs, but my ex is 6' and 330lbs. realistically, he could crush me, and has tried to.
the incident in may he got mad over a drill while picking up his remaining stuff in the garage. I had a friend as a witness over, but he had to bring his son and was putting him down for a nap when it happened. Ex's dad and sister were there.
He grabbed me and just tossed me like a ragdoll (I was shocked) into the wall and I hit my head on a roofing nail on some pegboard and had a gooseegg the size of a lime.
What worries me the most is if the kids are around...because my concern is them, not me. I can't protect myself and him.
most of our dropoffs/pickups happen at daycare. I drop in AM, he picks up in PM, and vice versa. We don't usually see eachother.
Everytime he has to come here, everytime I hear a car's breaks outside my office window (I work from home) in the front of the house....I'm worried.
He has escalated his agression, anger, etc with me since seperation over the last two years.
One of my issues among many during our marriage was the fact he blamed everyone else for anything wrong in his life. He has been blaming me for divorce, not paying CS, not having money, living with his parents, driving crappy car, having crappy job....
but it seems to me that the whole "living well is the best revenge" addage is true, but in a bad way.
I'm a BIG neon sign to him that *HE* was the fault now, as my life has improved immeasureably, and this makes him angry.
I still worry each time I have to see him that he'll hurt me, that he'll just snap and maybe do me real harm next time. It's not a "he'll calm down eventually" situation it seems.
Is it too late to file? Will I be granted one do you think?
I've asked him to meet me in public places to do exchange, but it actually makes him madder at me....I've endured several scathing conversations where he accused me of beating on him and lying to people about him hurting me.....as well as him telling the kids "we have to meet mommy here because mommy is a liar and she might hurt daddy"
I feel like if maybe I had a restraining order in place - that if he DOES hurt me again the cops will take it more seriously. the followup detective called me a few weeks later and said "well, not that i want you to get hit, but maybe next time he'll hit you in the fact and we'll have evidence" vs the goose egg hidden by hair I guess.
Right now, it seems like a joke and i'm stressing over it, alone from family and friends.....I don't have help and the police right now seem like they don't car either.
Nor did domestic V numbers give me anything but the run-around....
I feel like maybe if I had one, one of two things....he'd HAVE to meet me in a public place wether I wanted to or not....and if something did happen, i'd have some measure of protection finally.
can anyone offer advice?