Jillian483
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What is the name of your state?Arizona
My husband's ex constantly talks down to the children as if they were two year olds (they are 8 and 10). She constantly tells them that what they say they want is not what they really want and somehow talks them into not wanting it anymore. For example. The youngest wanted to play baseball really bad. Begged his dad for weeks about it and finally dad called mom and asked if it was okay. She said that she didn't have time to take hime to baseball practice or games so no he could not do it. The child was heartbroken. Father suggested that son would have to talk to mother but her would sign him up for baseball and at least he could go to the practices and games when child was in his costody (50% of the time). The child was so excited and had a lot of fun for a few days untill he came to his father in tears and told him that he HATED baseball and COULDN"T go anymore. Father asked him why and son said he didn't know. We got a phone call from his ex telling father that son could not do baseball and we are clouding his head with stupid stuff. She said that "thankfully" she has set son on right path now. Can this be seen as mental abuse? She also listens in on the phone conversations with father when the children are in her care. Shre tells them that they cannot tell their father certain thinks and badmouths him on a daily basis. What can be done about this? Can we take the children to a lawyer and video tape them answering questions about this and bring it to court? Please do not tell me to just bring the children to court to testify because that is not an option. I can also not call cps in this matter because I know that it would probably be hard to prove. Is it wrong and abusive for a mother to tell the children that things that they want to do are wrong and not waht they really want? We fell that she is squashing their dreams.
My husband's ex constantly talks down to the children as if they were two year olds (they are 8 and 10). She constantly tells them that what they say they want is not what they really want and somehow talks them into not wanting it anymore. For example. The youngest wanted to play baseball really bad. Begged his dad for weeks about it and finally dad called mom and asked if it was okay. She said that she didn't have time to take hime to baseball practice or games so no he could not do it. The child was heartbroken. Father suggested that son would have to talk to mother but her would sign him up for baseball and at least he could go to the practices and games when child was in his costody (50% of the time). The child was so excited and had a lot of fun for a few days untill he came to his father in tears and told him that he HATED baseball and COULDN"T go anymore. Father asked him why and son said he didn't know. We got a phone call from his ex telling father that son could not do baseball and we are clouding his head with stupid stuff. She said that "thankfully" she has set son on right path now. Can this be seen as mental abuse? She also listens in on the phone conversations with father when the children are in her care. Shre tells them that they cannot tell their father certain thinks and badmouths him on a daily basis. What can be done about this? Can we take the children to a lawyer and video tape them answering questions about this and bring it to court? Please do not tell me to just bring the children to court to testify because that is not an option. I can also not call cps in this matter because I know that it would probably be hard to prove. Is it wrong and abusive for a mother to tell the children that things that they want to do are wrong and not waht they really want? We fell that she is squashing their dreams.