What is the name of your state? Vermont
I have been divorced for 2 years now, and during my divorce I was granted full custody of our son. Since our divorce my ex has not been pleasent when it comes to our son, he has called him names, told him he makes his life miserable and has even hit him a few times (this is all per my 9 year old son). The strange thing is when I see our son in public with my ex he always acts like he is the perfect dad. My son is to clear as to the situations so deep down knowing my ex for the type of person he is I have to believe our son.
My ex husband has a tendacy of telling people that he really wants to get along with me for our sons sake, and in conversation he will throw out things such as school occurances, medical things he notices (non emergency) and etc. and say hey you want to look into this which I do. However when the doctor responds and I tell him this is something you need to follow as a preventitive he comes out and says I am using it as control over him. My son mentions a time the neighbors kid kept hitting him causing a good size bruise on his arm, and his dad was in the house and I asked my son if he mentioned it to his dad and he said yes, so politely my exact words to my ex was if this is the case and this neighbor kid is like that maybe you might want to make sure there is an dult present to supervise. Well my ex replied by saying this has nothing to do with supervision, kids are kids and once again told me he felt I was trying to be controling. It's almost like my ex is not able to let go of HIS past feelings of our relationship and realize this is no longer about us this is about what is best for our son. The suggestions he gives me I respond in a way I look to be co parenting....I follow through with the concern, but my SUGGESTIONS....(thats how I state it, is it may be something he might want to consider) and he says control.
I am at my wits end and he is making co parenting very difficult, does any know the exact meaning of control over an ex? I look at control would be if I tell him who he can talk to, where he can go and etc....am I right. Any suggestions for this topic would be great.
Anyone with suggestions on how I can word it to him to say more or less this is no longer about us, get over the past, this is about our child.
I have been divorced for 2 years now, and during my divorce I was granted full custody of our son. Since our divorce my ex has not been pleasent when it comes to our son, he has called him names, told him he makes his life miserable and has even hit him a few times (this is all per my 9 year old son). The strange thing is when I see our son in public with my ex he always acts like he is the perfect dad. My son is to clear as to the situations so deep down knowing my ex for the type of person he is I have to believe our son.
My ex husband has a tendacy of telling people that he really wants to get along with me for our sons sake, and in conversation he will throw out things such as school occurances, medical things he notices (non emergency) and etc. and say hey you want to look into this which I do. However when the doctor responds and I tell him this is something you need to follow as a preventitive he comes out and says I am using it as control over him. My son mentions a time the neighbors kid kept hitting him causing a good size bruise on his arm, and his dad was in the house and I asked my son if he mentioned it to his dad and he said yes, so politely my exact words to my ex was if this is the case and this neighbor kid is like that maybe you might want to make sure there is an dult present to supervise. Well my ex replied by saying this has nothing to do with supervision, kids are kids and once again told me he felt I was trying to be controling. It's almost like my ex is not able to let go of HIS past feelings of our relationship and realize this is no longer about us this is about what is best for our son. The suggestions he gives me I respond in a way I look to be co parenting....I follow through with the concern, but my SUGGESTIONS....(thats how I state it, is it may be something he might want to consider) and he says control.
I am at my wits end and he is making co parenting very difficult, does any know the exact meaning of control over an ex? I look at control would be if I tell him who he can talk to, where he can go and etc....am I right. Any suggestions for this topic would be great.
Anyone with suggestions on how I can word it to him to say more or less this is no longer about us, get over the past, this is about our child.