Can Stepparent do this?

[blendedfamily]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma

Ok I know getting custody from a parent is very hard to do...
But what can a NCP do about a Step parent being jerk, so to say?

My DS step parent alwasy has something to say not too me but to DS...just little digs all the time... my ex always says it will be handled but it always happens again...
I know getting custody is out of the question for such petty things but really can anything else be done?? Saying things to me is one thing but they always get said in front of DS NEVER to me...
Step parent shows issues w/ control....denies phone contact regularly...tells DS that I'm childish...and yes after typing this post I guess this sounds childish..but really what right does a step parent have to crap on bio parent and just get away with it....It never happens when my ex is around so I can only believe ex doesnt let it happen in front of child but really can anything be done...does years of this help at all on custody??
There would be no other reesaon to remove child from my ex's other than that...ex is good to DS..but any suggestions??? Legal or helpful hints to deal...

I'm really not petty.... I know it hurts DS as it does me to.

 

[stealth2]

So presumably, you know about this because your son tells you. I always told my kids simply that sometimes, when people are upset or unhappy about something, they say things they don't mean or haven't thought through. Encourage him to talk to his Mom about how he feels about the stuff he hars from stepdad, and how he doesn't like it.

 

[blendedfamily]

I did this last time and my ex came back to tell me ds wasn't going to be left alone w/'em for this reason... but since it has gone back to the way it was before...my ex sometimes asked if ds has mentioned anything to me...which tells me theres probably more than I know....I just dont know hat else to do the judge I'm thinking would laugh me out of the court room if I came in w/ only this I know there are bigger things in life...but how my son feels should be one of them...

 

[BelizeBreeze]

How old is your son?

 

[blendedfamily]

8 and he's lived there for 2 years

 

[BelizeBreeze]

8 and he's lived there for 2 years

Too bad. I was going to suggest he do the same as I did in 1969 when my stepfather finally got the message I wasn't going to put up with his crap any longer...

All you can do is keep your relationship with your son solid and help him to understand that age does not make an adult, only actions.

 

[stealth2]

Also, since your ex was aware of it before and apparently took action - let her know it's started again.

 

[blendedfamily]

thanks guys...we'll see how that goes,,,

 

[singlemomof4]

whats a parent to do?

tell stepparent to keep their mouth shut.you dont want to hear it from your child any longer about them bad mouthing you.as for the denying your phone contact,tell dear stepparent that is your child,you have the right to speak with him,and to KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF,you are tired of their meddling.

 

[stealth2]

tell stepparent to keep their mouth shut.you dont want to hear it from your child any longer about them bad mouthing you.as for the denying your phone contact,tell dear stepparent that is your child,you have the right to speak with him,and to KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF,you are tired of their meddling.

Is this you, Kelly? Or are you Kelly's sister?

 

[Venus05]

Just Curious

Too bad. I was going to suggest he do the same as I did in 1969 when my stepfather finally got the message I wasn't going to put up with his crap any longer...

All you can do is keep your relationship with your son solid and help him to understand that age does not make an adult, only actions.

age does not make an adult, only actions

BB,

You seem to offer allot of advice in this forum. Some that is very intellectual and useful, some bad, some crude and some that is completely filled with sarcasm that totally ticks people off! grrrrrrrr...... I need a good laugh this morning....not such a good evening What is your defintion of "actions" making someone an adult?

 

[blendedfamily]

tell stepparent to keep their mouth shut.you dont want to hear it from your child any longer about them bad mouthing you.as for the denying your phone contact,tell dear stepparent that is your child,you have the right to speak with him,and to KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF,you are tired of their meddling.

We've had several falling outs over the years...thing is I have said that and then it only gets worse for me.....my number has even been blocked when my ex is not home to keep me from calling...and as long as my son lives there...I have very little control...I can't make them answer the phone and theres not more a NCP can do w/o Cp handleing it...refraining from violence anyway...lol

 

[BelizeBreeze]

age does not make an adult, only actions

BB,

You seem to offer allot of advice in this forum. Some that is very intellectual and useful, some bad, some crude and some that is completely filled with sarcasm that totally ticks people off! grrrrrrrr...... I need a good laugh this morning....not such a good evening What is your defintion of "actions" making someone an adult?

That's a question that can only be defined with each action taken.

 

[singlemomof4]

no

nope,my names samantha mitchell not kelly.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma

Ok I know getting custody from a parent is very hard to do...
But what can a NCP do about a Step parent being jerk, so to say?

My DS step parent alwasy has something to say not too me but to DS...just little digs all the time... my ex always says it will be handled but it always happens again...
I know getting custody is out of the question for such petty things but really can anything else be done?? Saying things to me is one thing but they always get said in front of DS NEVER to me...
Step parent shows issues w/ control....denies phone contact regularly...tells DS that I'm childish...and yes after typing this post I guess this sounds childish..but really what right does a step parent have to crap on bio parent and just get away with it....It never happens when my ex is around so I can only believe ex doesnt let it happen in front of child but really can anything be done...does years of this help at all on custody??
There would be no other reesaon to remove child from my ex's other than that...ex is good to DS..but any suggestions??? Legal or helpful hints to deal...

I'm really not petty.... I know it hurts DS as it does me to.

I go through this once in awhile with my nuttyX. My child is younger than yours but we just say things like sometimes people say mean things when they are mad, or even if it hurts our feelings we know it's not true, or that it's ok for the child to let people know if they are saying things that hurt her feelings etc. I don't know what's gone on behind the scenes, but it's decreased over time. We just focus on how we feel or what we think about it, and don't engage in name calling back. At your child's age of 8 years old, this could be a good lesson learned about how sometimes people say things that just aren't very nice- and how to be Ok with knowing the truth themselves. There will come a time when the step-parent realizes (often too late) that they are only damaging their relationship with the child.