Change in visitation

[pissedoffmom]

Tennessee,
If a NCP has every other weekend for visitations (has had the same for last 2 years) and has recently started a job that does not allow him time to make it to pick up the children on set Friday pickup time @ 6pm will the court more than likely reschedule to another time or possibly Saturday morning when he does not work or is it more likely that they will make me keep the same visitation time (which causes me to rush as it is) and make me drop off our children at one of his family memebers homes???
We have drove down there (which is about 90 miles away) for the past 2 weekends he had visitation and he did not show because of work.

 

[LdiJ]

Tennessee,
If a NCP has every other weekend for visitations (has had the same for last 2 years) and has recently started a job that does not allow him time to make it to pick up the children on set Friday pickup time @ 6pm will the court more than likely reschedule to another time or possibly Saturday morning when he does not work or is it more likely that they will make me keep the same visitation time (which causes me to rush as it is) and make me drop off our children at one of his family memebers homes???
We have drove down there (which is about 90 miles away) for the past 2 weekends he had visitation and he did not show because of work.

There is no concrete answer to that one. It could honestly go either way.

I would recommend attempting to resolve the problem with mediation if at all possible. There is probably a solution to the problem that would make things work for both of you if you are both willing to compromise.

If the two of you agree you could probably drop the kids off at one of his family member's homes at a time that works better for you (less rushed)...since he can't be there either.

 

[pissedoffmom]

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Ok I have went to take the children there for 3 visits and he did not show. I went this last time and the kids were excited about finally seeing their dad because he was late but they managed to call me about 5 minutes before I was about to leave the place of exchanging the kids. I waited there for him to show and he got the children. He took them straight to his mothers home and left him there all weekend long. He did make it a point to go there to drop them off some chicken nuggets since his mother did not have food in the home for the kids to eat. Oh did I mention our son wont even eat meat. Something you THINK a father would know.
His grandmother and his aunt that live beside the grandmother of our children have called me concerned about the well being of our children while there. They don't have a place to sleep there. They are made to sleep on a couch WITH the grandmother or as what the grandmother told me our son was offered to sleep in the bed with his mentally challenged 23 yr old uncle. NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THIS AT ALL!!! Their uncles ex-wife now had contacted me in the past to ask if he had "messed" with our kids because they had concerns of him "messing" with their nephew.
Their grandmother is known for her lifestyle. She is just in my opinion nasty as heck. My ex husband was molested as a child and his mother was aware of this but continued to send her son to this mans home. She even had her children taken away from her when they were kids.(Put it this way her children even told me of her dropping them in dumpsters as children to look for clothes) I am just concerned for my kids wellbeing. She obviously was not fit to take care of her own children so why is she getting mine when it is my ex-husbands place any ways. I see so many things on here about parenting time is to keep or create a bond between a father/mother with the children but how is that working when the father just drops them off and leaves them there.
Is it true that as long as the father picks the kids up he can just take them and leave them anywhere? I am court ordered to take them their for parenting time with their father but must I take them there for his other family also?

 

[snostar]

Is it true that as long as the father picks the kids up he can just take them and leave them anywhere? I am court ordered to take them their for parenting time with their father but must I take them there for his other family also?

Well, he can't just leave them in the middle of a road. Yes, HIS time is HIS time to do with as he pleases, if that includes his family then he has the right to make that choice. If you have proof of some kind of abuse, you can file for a modification or contact Child Services.