Child Custody concern due to potential new job location

[sddad]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

I currently have full custody of the children (75/25 ratio) because their mom moved away to another town. I am going to be laid off in January of next year and was already given heads up by my work. I am trying to find work locally and in nearby areas. Should I get a job locally then of course everything is still status quo. Say that I don't get lucky and end up with a job in another town nearby what are my chances that I still have the same current custody arrangement (75/25) with the children should I need to be closer to the new job? I would be looking to move to the new town in the summer time of next year while commuting until then. I'm looking at this at all possible angles and wanted to know my options.

Say the worst case scenario is that I have to work in a different town and while I can still commute back and forth for short term the long term answer is to be closer to it. What are my chances to keep custody of the children say that their mom's location is still about the same distance to current town and to the new town. Instead of heading South she would be heading North instead.

If there are anyone with this kind of experience please share. With the economy the way it is now I can't afford to be too choosey and will have to go where the work is to support the family. TIAWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[ErinGoBragh]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

My wife and I currently have full custody of our children (75/25) because mom moved away to another town.

Read the sticky at the top of the page. They are the children of you and their mother, NOT the children of you and your new wife.

 

[sddad]

Read the sticky at the top of the page. They are the children of you and their mother, NOT the children of you and your new wife.

OK. You are right. The children are from my previous relationship with my ex wife and the question is still the same. Thank you.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

My wife and I currently have full custody of our children (75/25) because mom moved away to another town. I am going to be laid off in January of next year and was already given heads up by my work. I am trying to find work locally and in nearby areas. Should I get a job locally then of course everything is still status quo. Say that I don't get lucky and end up with a job in another town nearby what are my chances that I still have the same current custody arrangement (75/25) with our children should I need to be closer to the new job? I would be looking to move to the new town in the summer time of next year while commuting until then. I'm looking at this at all possible angles and wanted to know my options.

Make the bolded statement above in court or in front of any court professionals and its quite likely you will lose custody so fast that your head will spin.

Your children have one father and one mother, and your wife is nothing but your wife. She does not have custody of the children and the only time you should EVER be using the word "our" is if you are referring to you and the children's mother.

Seriously, that type of language is regarded as a sign of a stepparent who is seriously overstepping and a parent who is NOT co-parenting appropriately.

Whether or not you would have a chance of maintaining the current 75/25 schedule would depending entirely upon where you were moving. If you do not increase the distance between you and mom or even shorten the distance between you and mom, its likely that you won't have a problem.

If you increase the distance between you and mom, absolutely expect to have a problem.

Say the worst case scenario is that I have to work in a different town and while I can still commute back and forth for short term the long term answer is to be closer to it. What are my chances to keep custody of the children say that their mom's location is still about the same distance to current town and to the new town. Instead of heading South she would be heading North instead.

See the above answer.

If there are anyone with this kind of experience please share. With the economy the way it is now I can't afford to be too choosey and will have to go where the work is to support the family. TIAWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Just remember that you got 75% custody because mom moved away...don't expect to get better treatment than she got.

 

[sddad]

Make the bolded statement above in court or in front of any court professionals and its quite likely you will lose custody so fast that your head will spin.

Your children have one father and one mother, and your wife is nothing but your wife. She does not have custody of the children and the only time you should EVER be using the word "our" is if you are referring to you and the children's mother.

Seriously, that type of language is regarded as a sign of a stepparent who is seriously overstepping and a parent who is NOT co-parenting appropriately.

Whether or not you would have a chance of maintaining the current 75/25 schedule would depending entirely upon where you were moving. If you do not increase the distance between you and mom or even shorten the distance between you and mom, its likely that you won't have a problem.

If you increase the distance between you and mom, absolutely expect to have a problem.



See the above answer.



Just remember that you got 75% custody because mom moved away...don't expect to get better treatment than she got.

Thanks. I went back and fixed the original posting. You are absolutely right. Should have done a better job at proof reading.

 

[CJane]

So basically, Mom lives about 1/2 way between where you are NOW and where you are planning to move to?

What does your order say regarding relocation? What does the judgment say regarding why you retained custody of the children when Mom moved? What are the chances you could live in the same town as Mom and commute to your job (assuming Mom's town is the halfway or so point)?

Why is it in your children's best interests to move to town X? Why would that be better than Mom's town (with HER having primary)? What would your hours be at new job in town X? What are the schools like? How old are the children?

 

[sddad]

So basically, Mom lives about 1/2 way between where you are NOW and where you are planning to move to?

Assuming the worst case scenario that I have to move the answer is yes. She is about an hour away presently. With regards to the new location it is roughly about the same distance away.

What does your order say regarding relocation? What does the judgment say regarding why you retained custody of the children when Mom moved? What are the chances you could live in the same town as Mom and commute to your job (assuming Mom's town is the halfway or so point)?

Current order says that we are to stay in current area and any movement will require a revisit back to court. Mom chosed better housing for her $$$ and closer to work for her new husband so she moved. In the best interest of the children we came up with a parenting plan that is agreeable to both parties.

Why is it in your children's best interests to move to town X? Why would that be better than Mom's town (with HER having primary)? What would your hours be at new job in town X? What are the schools like? How old are the children?

First of all, the new location is also where most of the children's cousins and relatives live so they would be a lot closer to do more family activities with them. So there is a lot of support to help out. There are no cousins or relatives living in current dad and mom's locations. Dad would be closer to work and in this economic downtime, work is priority to support a family. The hours would be the same in new job (typical 8-5 or whenever done). School system is definitely top notched. The children are ages 9 and 12.