Child Support/ Adoption issue

[RRevak]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

Ok, now i'm frustrated. I spoke to child support services today to inquire as to the current status of my case and was told that financial packets have been mailed out. Mine has been mailed to my address, but my ex's has been mailed to an address where he no longer lives. When the paperwork had initially been filed, I made it very specific that he had a new residence but that I did not have the new address. They told me that he would be contacted via telephone for such information etc. Well, they told me today that he was indeed contacted but did not answer their calls on the several occasions they were made. He seems to have no forwarding address and is not employed in such a manner that his tax records could be checked. He refuses to answer anyone's calls, both mine as well as CS Services. I'm afraid that if the packet is sent to an address where he no longer lives, that he isnt going to recieve it and subsequently will be able to use that against whatever support number is calculated. Is this going to hinder my ability to recieve child support from him? Can an order be created if they cannot locate him? It seems as if he's disappeared. All I know is that he lives in Tampa now but have no other information than his cell phone number (which is still an orlando number).

I'm now to the point where i'm beyond frustrated at his actions. It just seems that he's trying to duck every attempt thats made for him to be a father, which leads me to my other question. Even though my husband and I have only been married a short time, would there be a way to file to have my husband adopt my daughter without being married the year's time? I would rather have her adopted than go through the hassle of trying to get support out of my ex (support that I know he wont pay anyway). My ex has already stated in a previous conversation that he is willing to relinquish parental rights. Someone please give advice, I'm beyond over this situation. I just want my daughter and I to be able to move on with our lives. Her father has made himself very clear that he no longer wants to be in her life, so we just want to move on as well.

 

[RRevak]

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Hello?? Anyone? Or did I post in the wrong forum?

 

[Zephyr]

they need to mail it to his last known address. I would be irate if the courts took my ex's word that I no longer lived at an address...he has to be the one to update them- or they need to find out from a third party, like csea or or somewhere like that

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

Ok, now i'm frustrated. I spoke to child support services today to inquire as to the current status of my case and was told that financial packets have been mailed out. Mine has been mailed to my address, but my ex's has been mailed to an address where he no longer lives. When the paperwork had initially been filed, I made it very specific that he had a new residence but that I did not have the new address. They told me that he would be contacted via telephone for such information etc. Well, they told me today that he was indeed contacted but did not answer their calls on the several occasions they were made. He seems to have no forwarding address and is not employed in such a manner that his tax records could be checked. He refuses to answer anyone's calls, both mine as well as CS Services. I'm afraid that if the packet is sent to an address where he no longer lives, that he isnt going to recieve it and subsequently will be able to use that against whatever support number is calculated. Is this going to hinder my ability to recieve child support from him? Can an order be created if they cannot locate him? It seems as if he's disappeared. All I know is that he lives in Tampa now but have no other information than his cell phone number (which is still an orlando number).

I'm now to the point where i'm beyond frustrated at his actions. It just seems that he's trying to duck every attempt thats made for him to be a father, which leads me to my other question. Even though my husband and I have only been married a short time, would there be a way to file to have my husband adopt my daughter without being married the year's time? I would rather have her adopted than go through the hassle of trying to get support out of my ex (support that I know he wont pay anyway). My ex has already stated in a previous conversation that he is willing to relinquish parental rights. Someone please give advice, I'm beyond over this situation. I just want my daughter and I to be able to move on with our lives. Her father has made himself very clear that he no longer wants to be in her life, so we just want to move on as well.

Is there an existing court order for support?

Whether or not an order already exists, no orders, or modifications can be issued until ex is legally served with the petition. You will need to find a way to locate an address for ex to have him served.

You can get a consult with an adoption attorney to see if there is some way around the 1 year waiting period for a step parent adoption. But the courts are pretty much set on the 1 year wait.

 

[nextwife]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

Ok, now i'm frustrated. I spoke to child support services today to inquire as to the current status of my case and was told that financial packets have been mailed out. Mine has been mailed to my address, but my ex's has been mailed to an address where he no longer lives. When the paperwork had initially been filed, I made it very specific that he had a new residence but that I did not have the new address. They told me that he would be contacted via telephone for such information etc. Well, they told me today that he was indeed contacted but did not answer their calls on the several occasions they were made. He seems to have no forwarding address and is not employed in such a manner that his tax records could be checked. He refuses to answer anyone's calls, both mine as well as CS Services. I'm afraid that if the packet is sent to an address where he no longer lives, that he isnt going to recieve it and subsequently will be able to use that against whatever support number is calculated. Is this going to hinder my ability to recieve child support from him? Can an order be created if they cannot locate him? It seems as if he's disappeared. All I know is that he lives in Tampa now but have no other information than his cell phone number (which is still an orlando number).

I'm now to the point where i'm beyond frustrated at his actions. It just seems that he's trying to duck every attempt thats made for him to be a father, which leads me to my other question. Even though my husband and I have only been married a short time, would there be a way to file to have my husband adopt my daughter without being married the year's time? I would rather have her adopted than go through the hassle of trying to get support out of my ex (support that I know he wont pay anyway). My ex has already stated in a previous conversation that he is willing to relinquish parental rights. Someone please give advice, I'm beyond over this situation. I just want my daughter and I to be able to move on with our lives. Her father has made himself very clear that he no longer wants to be in her life, so we just want to move on as well.

This post is ALL about your child's father, and not at all about a long established marriage and relationship between your child and the man you are asking to assume a lifetime responsibility for this child!

It is truly unfair to a new spouse to be pushing him into adoption of your child so soon after your marriage, regardless of your history with your ex. Give your marriage some years before trying to to do musical daddy's. This may be what YOU want, but puts your new husband on the spot. WHY do so many women think shoving step adoption on a new spouse, when the ink is barely dry on their marriage license, is the right thing for the spouse?

 

[retiredCSguy]

I've never heard of, or read about, a case where the 1 year waiting period was made an exception. It also looks confusing when you're trying to hunt down your ex for money, but at the same time want the new husband to adopt, so which is it? If your daughter has bonded with your husband in a way that would make him adopting her in her best interest and that's what you want then your case would be best served by not trying to hunt down the biological father for child support. When courts consider stepparent adoptions they look for cases of mommy got remarried and now she wants to take away the kids and give them to new daddy because she hates the ex and this works better for her cases and the other way around. Hating the ex is not a reason for an adoption. However, if your ex really has no interest in the child and your husband does then I'd recommend allowing him to take himself out of the child's life finanically and physically. If that is the case you do to the courts with for adoption you'll have much better chances than if he is involved.