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Child Support: His, hers and ours.

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mrs.jb

Junior Member
What is the name of your state? California
Here's the details: Blended family...his hers and ours. My husband has two children from a previous relationship (never married) and we have custody. We also have custody of my child from a previous relationship (never married) and we have one child together. Although I have a child support order with my child's father, he never pays and is in and out of jail for various minor drug and traffic violations. The state is in the process of suspending his driver's license. He is wanting me to "sign off" the amount of child support he owes (somewhere around $40,000) so he can get his driver's license back. He says that he needs it to get a job, it's a Class A license. I feel that the money belongs to our child, not to me, but in that respect, I know that my child, in his teens, is still not old enough to make that decision for himself, based on the fact that his father's poor situations would influence him. Am I wrong for not wanting to help out my child's dad?

Also...in regards to child support orders...my husband's ex doesn't have an order against her to pay any child support, but when he asks her to help out to pay for glasses, braces, etc, she claims to not have any money. I know that her income is below ours, we have two incomes. However, I still feel that she should be partially responsible financially to her children. I feel that with me not receiving any child support, the money I earn should go towards my child, the money my husband earns go towards his children even though our money is shared. If my husband does file for support, should the state consider my income, based on the fact that I have another child for which I recieve no support? Also, will they consider that our incomes combined are greater than hers alone, although she is also married but her husband works in the fields for non reported income.

On a final note, regardless of either of us not recieving any child support I'm happy to say that none of our children go without, but it sure would be nice if the "other parents" would help out.
 


Zephyr

Senior Member
mrs.jb said:
What is the name of your state? California
Here's the details: Blended family...his hers and ours. My husband has two children from a previous relationship (never married) and we have custody. We also have custody of my child from a previous relationship (never married) and we have one child together. Although I have a child support order with my child's father, he never pays and is in and out of jail for various minor drug and traffic violations. The state is in the process of suspending his driver's license. He is wanting me to "sign off" the amount of child support he owes (somewhere around $40,000) so he can get his driver's license back. He says that he needs it to get a job, it's a Class A license. I feel that the money belongs to our child, not to me, but in that respect, I know that my child, in his teens, is still not old enough to make that decision for himself, based on the fact that his father's poor situations would influence him. Am I wrong for not wanting to help out my child's dad?


nope he made his bed


Also...in regards to child support orders...my husband's ex doesn't have an order against her to pay any child support, but when he asks her to help out to pay for glasses, braces, etc, she claims to not have any money. I know that her income is below ours, we have two incomes. However, I still feel that she should be partially responsible financially to her children. I feel that with me not receiving any child support, the money I earn should go towards my child, the money my husband earns go towards his children even though our money is shared. If my husband does file for support, should the state consider my income, based on the fact that I have another child for which I recieve no support? Also, will they consider that our incomes combined are greater than hers alone, although she is also married but her husband works in the fields for non reported income.

On a final note, regardless of either of us not recieving any child support I'm happy to say that none of our children go without, but it sure would be nice if the "other parents" would help out.


dad should file for support- your income would not be considered- neither will mom's husbands....
 

nextwife

Senior Member
mrs.jb said:
.my husband's ex doesn't have an order against her to pay any child support, but when he asks her to help out to pay for glasses, braces, etc, she claims to not have any money. I know that her income is below ours, we have two incomes.

Why SHOULDN'T hubby's wife be held responsible for helping support her kids, just like you hold your kid's other parent responsible for their arrearage? I'm sorry, but this constant willingness of society to hold women to very low expectations of financial capability/responsibility is insulting. If we expect fathers to support their kids, we should expect a mothers to as well.
 

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