Children's Bill of rights

[ditzymiss]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ

The children's bill of rights is an excellant document, however, does anyone know how you go about getting those rights enforced in family court.

I was recently there and the mediator told my son that using my granddaughter as a messanger was against the CBR and he could be sanctioned for that. I am striving to get grandparent visitation, which I got, but he violated the court order and he and his wife (not the children's mother) are consistantly bad mouthing, etc. Just wanted to know if those rights were enforced in any way.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Isis1]

You mean this?

DIVORCE HQ Children's Bill of Rights

Where it says at the bottom these rights are not the law and are not enforceable in a court of law?

 

[ditzymiss]

I am confused then. If they are not the law, then why did the mediator, who is a lawyer, state that my son could be sanctioned for violating the Chilren's Bill of Rights?

 

[Proserpina]

I am confused then. If they are not the law, then why did the mediator, who is a lawyer, state that my son could be sanctioned for violating the Chilren's Bill of Rights?

I have no idea.

Since they're not enforceable, your son couldn't be sanctioned.

I think you need to speak with an attorney.

 

[Isis1]

I am confused then. If they are not the law, then why did the mediator, who is a lawyer, state that my son could be sanctioned for violating the Chilren's Bill of Rights?

Because talking bad about the other parent is detrimental to the child. And the law is for the best interest of the child.

 

[Banned_Princess]

I think this is what was meant.


http://www.afcc-nj.org/bill_of_rights.html






your welcome. It doesnt say if the Bill was passed yet.

 

[ditzymiss]

That's what' s so funny, the mediator was an attorney and she's the one who said it? There must be something the NJ courts are doing, but I have no idea.

 

[Proserpina]

That's what' s so funny, the mediator was an attorney and she's the one who said it? There must be something the NJ courts are doing, but I have no idea.

...and that is why you need to speak with a local attorney.

 

[ecmst12]

You are not a parent to this child. You were lucky to get visitation but do NOT expect your son to be happy with you for usurping his parental rights.

 

[Rushia]

You are not a parent to this child. You were lucky to get visitation but do NOT expect your son to be happy with you for usurping his parental rights.

Actually, I was just thinking that. It all says between the child and parents. The only part that refers to gps is that the children have a right to a relationship with them. I'm not sure that OP can enforce that here.

 

[ditzymiss]

In the state of New Jersey, grandparents DO have visitation rights when they have been the caretaker. For four years I lived with my son, my grandson was only 6 months old. While he chose to go out and party, I was there with the children. When he chose to take nice vacations and my ex-daughter-in-law had to work...I stayed with the children. He has been extremely irresponsible and treats his kids like little inmates and his new wife is emotionally abusive. I have been a major part of their lives and in my grandsons eyes like another mother. Was all that right, maybe not, but the alternative was leaving them alone with him...that was scarier yet. You would hope that parents would make choices in the best interest of their children, but so often they do not. Barring me from seeing the children is based on one thing...My present DIL asked me to sever the relationship I had with my ex-DIL...I said no I wouldn't do that, she is the childrens mother...with that my present DIL has proceeded to drive a wedge, keep me from the kids., etc and my son doesn't have the guts to stand up to her. That's the story.

 

[stealth2]

Was all that right, maybe not, but the alternative was leaving them alone with him...that was scarier yet.

And this is the son YOU raised, yes? Would make me think twice about letting you near the kids, to be honest.

I'm still waiting for an answer to the question you were asked on another thread... (ETA) This is the thread I'm talking about https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/sharing-bedrooms-534651.html#post2691194 Please answer the question.

 

[ecmst12]

My answer stands. Do not expect your child to EVER forgive you for sueing him. Do not expect to get a single minute more with the kids then a court order requires and expect him to fight you to the last minute. These are not your children and while your friendship with his ex SHOULD be none of his business, he is still a parent and has the constitutional right to decide who can spend time with his children. So, way to burn your bridges.

 

[ditzymiss]

I have had the kids overnight every other wednesday and thursday during the day, for the past six years, as my son worked...the first four i lived with him, he sold his house, remarried, so the last two were at my home. This year the youngest grandson started school...all was well, talked to him in the afternoon...on my way to get kids he says "don't come the wife is going crazy cause you are picking them up"...and the rest is history. He just won't stand up to her, I know he really doesn't want this. And yes this is the son I raised....I raised him to do the right thing and he has up till now....he is 33 years old, a little late to be blaming mom for his defects of character.

 

[CJane]

a little late to be blaming mom for his defects of character.

Especially when there's a new wife that we could be blaming instead.