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mommyanme

Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC

Is communication that has completely stalled enough to ask for a clarification of the court order or enough to modify to add a specific form of communication? Dad says phone only, when I've attempted his way and I am on the phone with him I am over talked, verbally abused with threats of criminal charges, yelled at, accused of not following the court order and threatened with contempt, communication by phone is one sided=dad yelling and accusing and basically raging about whatever. It's a game of he said she said by phone.

I let the phone thing slide and made him leave messages and responded by email or text. That resulted in me being told Dad's email now belonged to grandma and she would file harassment charges if I continued to send emails and text messages have been blocked, I receive notice back that "the user is not currently excepting text messages".

I've tried by snail mail and have had letters returned, tried certified again letters returned.

One section in our consent order says "strive to communicate" another section says, each party will notify the other 30 days in advance if they intend to take child out of state, parties must include address, phone number and itinerary. Another section says each party is to notify the other 30 days in advance of vacation periods. And yet another says we are to provide doctor's written instructions. When I stated I had already notified 30 days in advance of leaving state when Dad implemented this "phone only" contact he now says I did not. Luckily I also sent an email, so I do have it covered.

My goal is to get communication flowing again because of our son's health problems and at the current state it isn't happening.
 


LdiJ

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC

Is communication that has completely stalled enough to ask for a clarification of the court order or enough to modify to add a specific form of communication? Dad says phone only, when I've attempted his way and I am on the phone with him I am over talked, verbally abused with threats of criminal charges, yelled at, accused of not following the court order and threatened with contempt, communication by phone is one sided=dad yelling and accusing and basically raging about whatever. It's a game of he said she said by phone.

I let the phone thing slide and made him leave messages and responded by email or text. That resulted in me being told Dad's email now belonged to grandma and she would file harassment charges if I continued to send emails and text messages have been blocked, I receive notice back that "the user is not currently excepting text messages".

I've tried by snail mail and have had letters returned, tried certified again letters returned.

One section in our consent order says "strive to communicate" another section says, each party will notify the other 30 days in advance if they intend to take child out of state, parties must include address, phone number and itinerary. Another section says each party is to notify the other 30 days in advance of vacation periods. And yet another says we are to provide doctor's written instructions. When I stated I had already notified 30 days in advance of leaving state when Dad implemented this "phone only" contact he now says I did not. Luckily I also sent an email, so I do have it covered.

My goal is to get communication flowing again because of our son's health problems and at the current state it isn't happening.

You could try taking it to court and getting it ordered that communication is to take place via email. Its not uncommon for judges to order that. However, its going to be kind of a he said/she said thing and it will boil down to who is the most credible.
 

mommyanme

Member
You could try taking it to court and getting it ordered that communication is to take place via email. Its not uncommon for judges to order that. However, its going to be kind of a he said/she said thing and it will boil down to who is the most credible.

Do the text messages stating all this before he started it close enough to stop the he said she said? We are a 1 party state and I've recorded 2 conversations of him yelling at me and threatening charges and I have several nasty voicemails of him stating his Mom was going to file harassment charges because he "told me that email now belonged to his mom"? Would this make it closer to credible including the snail mail with "return to sender" written on it? I have left them unopened.

He is bound to either lie or say he "didn't know what the order meant"
 

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