Compelled to let child go?

[sharon_k]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

Hello, my husband recently moved out of our home. No formal agreement or divorce has been filed. He telling me that he wants to take our child next weekend. Am I compelled to allow him to do so? I am the primary parent.

 

[NYCTeacher]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

Hello, my husband recently moved out of our home. No formal agreement or divorce has been filed. He telling me that he wants to take our child next weekend. Am I compelled to allow him to do so? I am the primary parent.

It could count against you if you are uncooperative and you show that you aren't willing to help foster a relationship between the child and father. Give them all the time they need, divorces aren't just hard on adults, it's hard for a child who has been seeing their parent everyday to all of a sudden only see them on weekends.

If i were you i'd recommend to split time, 50/50 with my ex, for the sake of the child. Offer him time when you are at work or when you have other plans, if the courts see you trying to share time with your child they will be more inclined to be on your side.

 

[stealth2]

It's a tricky line. You have equal rights to the child. However, there is nothing compelling the other parent to return the child, any more than there is for you to allow the time. Absent an assertion that the child is in danger? I'd try to sort out a schedule with Dad. And file for divorce/temporary custody orders.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Were you planning on holding the child hostage for leverage?

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? FL

Hello, my husband recently moved out of our home. No formal agreement or divorce has been filed. He telling me that he wants to take our child next weekend. Am I compelled to allow him to do so? I am the primary parent.

No you aren't. YOu are a parent. You stand equal with him. YOU are NOT the primary anything. Try to realize that. Let his child go with him to visit.

 

[stealth2]

yes this is how my mother was adviced years ago. Did it it back fire on us kids. Yes it did. For years I would not talk to my father and his family. Reason was cause we were forced by court to do this. I hated it every time and I did hide in her home for hrs before getting picked up. Turned out the court backed off cause of a vilent vistit. Plus they did not want to drag us out to visit. And then go back to drag us out of hidding. Did I ever forgive who pushed it. No never. I have not talked to the adult ever again.

Am I the only one who found this incomprehensible?

 

[Ohiogal]

Am I the only one who found this incomprehensible?

No. You are not the only one.

 

[Ohiogal]

Ok girls Explain this one to me. I am listening.
Ok I am not born in USA. So is there something I am missing ?

Common sense. Knowledge of the law. Ability to communicate properly and intelligently. (Of course that could be because under the sea you do not have access to computers so I will cut you a bit of slack.) But seriously, YOU should NOT be commenting when you know nothing of the law. And your last post made absolutely NO sense.

 

[single317dad]

To specifically address the language of the title of your post: Can you currently be compelled to send the child to Dad's? No. Not yet. But you can be compelled eventually, by a judge, and refusing to do so now may work against you in the divorce proceeding. You should probably retain a bilingual attorney who can communicate properly with the court, which will require arguments and documents mostly in English, and you, who will probably be more comfortable with another language.

 

[Ohiogal]

so what I am saying. Do what you want cause you are the adult. But dont ever expect your child to like it as an adult.

And? That has nothing to do with the legal issues. Maybe you are just bitter and need counseling.

 

[janM]

To specifically address the language of the title of your post: Can you currently be compelled to send the child to Dad's? No. Not yet. But you can be compelled eventually, by a judge, and refusing to do so now may work against you in the divorce proceeding. You should probably retain a bilingual attorney who can communicate properly with the court, which will require arguments and documents mostly in English, and you, who will probably be more comfortable with another language.

Um, singledad, are you addressing the last part to bluemermaide53? She is not the OP.

 

[Ohiogal]

Maybe not according to the law I do agree with you. But as an adult . Yes. Children becomes adults as you know.
I am born in another country.I have no knowledge of the law. I do have have knowledge how an adult can read CAN react to the law once the law doeas dont apply to them.

The law always applies to people -- at least in this country. And this is a legal site. If you don't know the law, DO NOT POST. QUIT HIJACKING THIS THREAD.

OP can find that she is penalized for prohibiting the child from going with the other parent. She could find that she could lose custody. She could find that dad picks the child up at school and daycare (as is his legal right) and then she is in the position of not seeing the child because of the game of keepaway she started. She should act like an adult and a parent and put the CHILD first. Not her own pride. She should be able to talk to the man who she chose to be the child's father and learn that just because she and he are getting a divorce that the child is NOT divorcing either of them.

You, on the other hand, just need to return to the sea and watch from afar.

 

[Ohiogal]

Ok . I do live in USA as an adult.Nice try to get me feel bad.

Let me speak slowly.
You
do
not
know
anything
about
the
law.
So SHUT UP. This is a LEGAL site. Not a whining, support group. If you do NOT know the law, you should NOT be posting.

 

[TheGeekess]

It also can be a whining family if they screw up. Not now but in the future. Kids are not minors when they are 18. So if you as a parent screw up. no commnet. I have heard that one from a lot of people who did now believe their kids could tell them where to go......

Stop. Just stop.

 

[single317dad]

Um, singledad, are you addressing the last part to bluemermaide53? She is not the OP.

You are answering op not me I hope.

My message was directed at the OP, and the title of the thread (which OP provided), "Compelled to let child go?" I was answering her question literally.