childrenRpeople
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What is the name of your state? CA
My husband and I recently attended a mediation session in which the unimaginable happened...he told the truth!
He admitted that he is battling a drug/alcohol problem, he admitted that he was diagnosed bipolar and prescribed medication that he isn't taking, he admitted he took our 2 year-old on a drug run, he admitted he was abusive toward me and he admitted he tried to grow pot in our house.
The strange thing is that he swore he'd never admit anything to a court official and openly did to the mediator who made it clear that she was making a recommendation that included rehab, mental health help and supervised visits. I'm wondering why his sudden honesty and wonder if he's thinking he has something to gain. Suspicious mind on my part, I realize but something just doesn't add up.
My question is this (I want to see this pie coming before it hits me in the face):
1) Does his likelihood of having to pay child support get diminished if he is "unable to work" due to unresolved drug/mental health issues?
2) Does his likelihood of getting alimony increase if he is "unable to work" due to unresolved drug/mental health issues? FYI...we were married 2 years, 7 months.
I would like to think that perhaps he is working toward admitting he has a problem but there was still no accountability on his part...he blamed everyone and everything else for his problems/actions. A cynical side of me thinks perhaps he stands to gain more financially by admitting his issues openly.
Please advise....
My husband and I recently attended a mediation session in which the unimaginable happened...he told the truth!
He admitted that he is battling a drug/alcohol problem, he admitted that he was diagnosed bipolar and prescribed medication that he isn't taking, he admitted he took our 2 year-old on a drug run, he admitted he was abusive toward me and he admitted he tried to grow pot in our house.
The strange thing is that he swore he'd never admit anything to a court official and openly did to the mediator who made it clear that she was making a recommendation that included rehab, mental health help and supervised visits. I'm wondering why his sudden honesty and wonder if he's thinking he has something to gain. Suspicious mind on my part, I realize but something just doesn't add up.
My question is this (I want to see this pie coming before it hits me in the face):
1) Does his likelihood of having to pay child support get diminished if he is "unable to work" due to unresolved drug/mental health issues?
2) Does his likelihood of getting alimony increase if he is "unable to work" due to unresolved drug/mental health issues? FYI...we were married 2 years, 7 months.
I would like to think that perhaps he is working toward admitting he has a problem but there was still no accountability on his part...he blamed everyone and everything else for his problems/actions. A cynical side of me thinks perhaps he stands to gain more financially by admitting his issues openly.
Please advise....
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