CPSE Questions/ 3yr old being evaluated...

[uquillas06]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NYC

My 3 yr old daughters private daycare center asked us to have our baby girl evaluated because according to them her language/speech wasn't where it was suppose to be and she's too hyper in class. After checking with her pediatrician she agreed that my girl would probably benefit from an evaluation after conducting an audiology exam. So I got my child tested and in the results she comes out as moderately low/ borderline impaired/delayed range. (she's in the 2 year old 2 month range) The meeting with the CPSE is this week and i am told that they will decide there weather should be in special ed/occupational therapy. BUT they have told me that my baby will not get offered any programs unless I consent to have her declared disable which would make her be classified as a special ed student until she can prove to the system that she's okay.

Can they force me to do this?
Should I willingly declare my daughter disable?
Should I give it more time and see if she slowly develops?

**Also her daycare center keeps on top of me about the status of the evaluation and more then once her director or teacher have hinted at us moving her to a more "suitable" situation for her. Her teacher has told me that the center is not capable of "handling" my daughter.

Can they kick her out, even if she is determined by the evaluation center to need special ed? If I don't declare her disable can they kick her out?

HELP...

 

[Zigner]

Why WOULDN'T you want your child to be properly classified?

If the daycare center cannot accommodate your child, how do you expect to force them?

 

[uquillas06]

I don't want my baby stuck in the Special ed system if she doesn't belong there, it happened to my little brother and all he had was a speech impediment...I just want to be sure, wouldn't you want to be sure? I just need legal advise pls..

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NYC

My 3 yr old daughters private daycare center asked us to have our baby girl evaluated because according to them her language/speech wasn't where it was suppose to be and she's too hyper in class. After checking with her pediatrician she agreed that my girl would probably benefit from an evaluation after conducting an audiology exam. So I got my child tested and in the results she comes out as moderately low/ borderline impaired/delayed range. (she's in the 2 year old 2 month range) The meeting with the CPSE is this week and i am told that they will decide there weather should be in special ed/occupational therapy. BUT they have told me that my baby will not get offered any programs unless I consent to have her declared disable which would make her be classified as a special ed student until she can prove to the system that she's okay.

Can they force me to do this?
Should I willingly declare my daughter disable?
Should I give it more time and see if she slowly develops?

**Also her daycare center keeps on top of me about the status of the evaluation and more then once her director or teacher have hinted at us moving her to a more "suitable" situation for her. Her teacher has told me that the center is not capable of "handling" my daughter.

Can they kick her out, even if she is determined by the evaluation center to need special ed? If I don't declare her disable can they kick her out?

HELP...

Who tested your child? What was the EXACT Dx?

 

[Zigner]

I don't want my baby stuck in the Special ed system if she doesn't belong there, it happened to my little brother and all he had was a speech impediment...I just want to be sure, wouldn't you want to be sure? I just need legal advise pls..

A child (with a proper advocate) doesn't get "stuck" in the system.

 

[uquillas06]

A developmental center tested her on various exams by several psychologist and they results were a range of adequate to moderately low.

she was tested in the

standford binet
vineland adaptive scales
peabody development
preschool language scale
etc

 

[Isis1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NYC

My 3 yr old daughters private daycare center asked us to have our baby girl evaluated because according to them her language/speech wasn't where it was suppose to be and she's too hyper in class. After checking with her pediatrician she agreed that my girl would probably benefit from an evaluation after conducting an audiology exam. So I got my child tested and in the results she comes out as moderately low/ borderline impaired/delayed range. (she's in the 2 year old 2 month range) The meeting with the CPSE is this week and i am told that they will decide there weather should be in special ed/occupational therapy. BUT they have told me that my baby will not get offered any programs unless I consent to have her declared disable which would make her be classified as a special ed student until she can prove to the system that she's okay.

Can they force me to do this?
Should I willingly declare my daughter disable?
Should I give it more time and see if she slowly develops?

**Also her daycare center keeps on top of me about the status of the evaluation and more then once her director or teacher have hinted at us moving her to a more "suitable" situation for her. Her teacher has told me that the center is not capable of "handling" my daughter.

Can they kick her out, even if she is determined by the evaluation center to need special ed? If I don't declare her disable can they kick her out?

HELP...

okay. OP, please let me explain something to you. this is NOT a judge on your character for your child being disabled. i know what you are going through. i went through it myself 5 years ago when my now 8 year old was 3. then, i am going through it again with my 3 year old AND 2 year old.

the idea, that my child was disabled was hard for ME to swallow. but i went through the process. my child was on an IEP for several years. even play therapy every day plus speech therapy once a week. he is no longer on the IEP. he has been FULLY released from any development delay diagnosis. that was 2 years ago.

now that my 3 year old and my two year old are in the same class, i can better handle the diagnosis emotionally and get past it so i can be productive for my children. now, the husband on the other hand, is going through his own emotional setback because he doesn't want his children (the two we share) diagnosed as special ed. but i'm here to walk him through it. and with enough hard work, you as a parent can learn to better your child and cope with it.

 

[PQN]

Iep

You want that IEP plan. Your daughter IS disabled, refusing offers of help won't change that but accepting help might. Getting the school to provide services through an IEP will help your daughter maximize her potential. Special Education is not a PLACE; it is a spectrum of services. Some children merely get 20 minutes of service per week, others spend half their day in a special education room and others live at special ed boarding schools -- and many steps in between. When my younger daughter was 3, we were told that she was mentally impaired. We got her into special education and she stayed in a mixed classroom (regular and special ed kids together). At the end of 3rd grade she "graduated" from special education. It costs the schools a lot of money to provide services, if your daughter catches up, they will gladly release her from special education. But those services will help her catch up.

 

[Shadowbunny]

Isis & PQN, y'all rock. I don't know if OP is still reading the thread or not, but if she is, I hope she's taking your words of wisdom to heart. Thanks for sharing your personal stories in order to provide encouragement to someone else.

 

[uquillas06]

I have read it! thank you all so much for your advise -tomorrow is her meeting -I will update with results!

Thankss

 

[lennon1984]

Your child is entitled to services which will, eventually and probably too slowly, improve her quality of life. The IEP will assure that she receives the proper services. Unfortunately all of us get hung up on the "disabled" label. We probably all suffer from some sort of "disability" in some degree or fashion. She will not be able to get appropriate assistance until she is properly "diagnosed."

If your child was diabetic, you would want to make sure she received proper attention. But she would not be able to receive proper treatment unless she was first "labeled" as diabetic.

Best wishes.