Danhooch

[bononos]

Not sure why you closed your thread, but I wanted to clarify:

bononos - read the entire forum! I am not back tracking!! I am trying to get my thoughts all put on page. My information is just coming out in bits and pieces.

I have read it.
This was your exact statement about why you denied visits and continue to:

"I denied him visitation when he started telling me that he didn't think my daughter was his. I then told him that I would not allow him to see the children in fear of him saying something to the children about this matter. I informed him that she is his child and if he felt she wasn't then HE should pay for a paternity test and until then or until he lets this drop he would not be allowed to see the children."

You do not mention denying based on his mental stability.

I am not trying to be mean and I definately understand your situation. My ex is bipolar/manic-depressive (refusing meds.).

Of course if your ex appears to be "in one of those episodes", it's not a reasonable visit, but should he seem fine, allow it, don't refuse because of his denying paternity.

I can tell when my ex is in one of those bad times.
His voice gets louder, he rambles on about everything to anyone, all kinds of signs.

 

[CJane]

This was your exact statement about why you denied visits and continue to:

"I denied him visitation when he started telling me that he didn't think my daughter was his. I then told him that I would not allow him to see the children in fear of him saying something to the children about this matter. I informed him that she is his child and if he felt she wasn't then HE should pay for a paternity test and until then or until he lets this drop he would not be allowed to see the children."

Actually, the first reason she gives is this

. Last year I denied him access to the children due to his unavailability to see the children, by his choice

She can't make up her mind why she's denying.

 

[danhooch]

I have not denied him visitation based solely upon his denial of paternity!! It has to do with that as well as the fact that, 1) He sees the kids when HE wants to see them and not when they want to see him, 2) He has just recently, in December, come back out of the hospital for the third time in six months, 3) He is staying on and off with a woman he met in the mental institution, 4) He misses every important event in the children life, when they request him to be here, which is causing mental distress to the children.

 

[bononos]

I have not denied him visitation based solely upon his denial of paternity!! It has to do with that as well as the fact that, 1) He sees the kids when HE wants to see them and not when they want to see him,

It's not up to the kids to decide when, it's up to the parents. This is an adult issue that the kids should not be involved in deciding.

2) He has just recently, in December, come back out of the hospital for the third time in six months,
3) He is staying on and off with a woman he met in the mental institution,
4) He misses every important event in the children life, when they request him to be here, which is causing mental distress to the children.
You deny him visits, but are upset he doesn't attend these things?

As for the rest, as your court order stands, you are denying reasonable visits and could be found in contempt. You need to file for a modification of custody and request supervised visits to deal with the situation properly.

 

[Silverplum]

I have not denied him visitation based solely upon his denial of paternity!! It has to do with that as well as the fact that, 1) He sees the kids when HE wants to see them and not when they want to see him, 2) He has just recently, in December, come back out of the hospital for the third time in six months, 3) He is staying on and off with a woman he met in the mental institution, 4) He misses every important event in the children life, when they request him to be here, which is causing mental distress to the children.

It is exceedingly clear that you have not done any research on this or any forum about your legal problem.
Come back and ask questions once you've done some reading. This question is asked and answered a jillion times.