Darn- Not sure what to do

[penelope10]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX

Rats I hope this post can stay open, lol.

Dad has given Lil Bit the option of not going over to his house and just meeting him on occasion. This has been his choice and not hers. She will be 18 next October. Should I have the order modified, or just leave it as is?

I'm not trying to keep her from seeing him, and she still wants to have a relationship (even a small one with him). It's his wife that don't want her coming over to the house. (And I guess he doesn't want to make waves with his wife so he's not going to stand up to her).

It's just one more year until she is 18 and I really don't want to have to go back to court unless I have to.

(I'll keep my fingers crossed that the thread doesn't get closed again---please refer to my other two postings for background).

 

[TheGeekess]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX

Rats I hope this post can stay open, lol.

Dad has given Lil Bit the option of not going over to his house and just meeting him on occasion. This has been his choice and not hers. She will be 18 next October. Should I have the order modified, or just leave it as is?

I'm not trying to keep her from seeing him, and she still wants to have a relationship (even a small one with him). It's his wife that don't want her coming over to the house. (And I guess he doesn't want to make waves with his wife so he's not going to stand up to her).

It's just one more year until she is 18 and I really don't want to have to go back to court unless I have to.

(I'll keep my fingers crossed that the thread doesn't get closed again---please refer to my other two postings for background).

If Oz agrees to it, you could always file a stipulated agreement with the court.

 

[penelope10]

If Oz agrees to it, you could always file a stipulated agreement with the court.

That's a great idea! Of course, I was hoping to avoid the whole court thing altogether,but probably not a wise move.

Ugh, now I have to figure out how to word this to him via email

 

[TheGeekess]

That's a great idea! Of course, I was hoping to avoid the whole court thing altogether,but probably not a wise move.

Ugh, now I have to figure out how to word this to him via email

Wishing you much luck, my friend.

 

[Isis1]

honestly, i'd leave as is for a few months....just to see how it pans out.

 

[penelope10]

honestly, i'd leave as is for a few months....just to see how it pans out.

Yeah that was kind of my plan. Dad may change his mind, grow a set, and tell his wife that his daughter is always welcome at their home. The nastiness has been going on and off for 4 years. With both girls. I've stayed clear of it with Dad just because I feel it will only make the situation worse.

Is there anything that I can do about the text message situation if she keeps bothering my daughter? Just hate to see the poor kiddo get so stressed out.

 

[Just Blue]

Yeah that was kind of my plan. Dad may change his mind, grow a set, and tell his wife that his daughter is always welcome at their home. The nastiness has been going on and off for 4 years. With both girls. I've stayed clear of it with Dad just because I feel it will only make the situation worse.

Is there anything that I can do about the text message situation if she keeps bothering my daughter? Just hate to see the poor kiddo get so stressed out.

I would save the text and file a harassment complaint with the PD. Or, if you would like a less contentious resolve, try a C&D order written up from lawyer.

 

[TheGeekess]

Yeah that was kind of my plan. Dad may change his mind, grow a set, and tell his wife that his daughter is always welcome at their home. The nastiness has been going on and off for 4 years. With both girls. I've stayed clear of it with Dad just because I feel it will only make the situation worse.

Is there anything that I can do about the text message situation if she keeps bothering my daughter? Just hate to see the poor kiddo get so stressed out.

If your phone company allows you to block certain numbers (not all will) then block the number.

If LilBit has a smart phone, there's apps for blocking numbers. I have a lovely one that I use with my BlackBerry.

 

[penelope10]

I would save the text and file a harassment complaint with the PD. Or, if you would like a less contentious resolve, try a C&D order written up from lawyer.

Great idea, I didn't think about the C&D order, or going to the police either.
I think the C&D order might be the route to go if this continues.

Perhaps step mother will stop now that she has succeeded in making Lil Bit feel too uncomfortable to go over there and Dad is ok with her not going over. It's really a sad situation for a 17 yr old to find out that her Dad is ok with someone, unprovoked, being ugly to her. Dad got in a fight with his wife and said something ugly (that Lil Bit hated her) probably in a fit of anger. Like a teenager, this adult woman responded by texting a 17 year old to start a fight. (Which Lil Bit did not fall for).

 

[Just Blue]

Great idea, I didn't think about the C&D order, or going to the police either.
I think the C&D order might be the route to go if this continues.

Perhaps step mother will stop now that she has succeeded in making Lil Bit feel too uncomfortable to go over there and Dad is ok with her not going over. It's really a sad situation for a 17 yr old to find out that her Dad is ok with someone, unprovoked, being ugly to her. Dad got in a fight with his wife and said something ugly (that Lil Bit hated her) probably in a fit of anger. Like a teenager, this adult woman responded by texting a 17 year old to start a fight. (Which Lil Bit did not fall for).

I probably would not go the p.d option unless the C&D was ignored. Give my best to your babygirl...Hope this work out well for her and Dad.

 

[penelope10]

I won't block the number, but I cannot imagine Lil Bit ever getting in touch with Step for an emergency, or Step getting in touch with her if something happened to Dad.

Step has made it very clear that she does not like children, does not like Lil Bit, and does not like Sissy. OZ, the dope, has repeated this to both of the girls. And of course she has texted both of them stating very ugly things as proof. The real problem in this IMO is Dad because he is playing everyone against one another. But that's why I call him OZ. He's not the great and powerful, just the little guy standing behind the curtain trying to pull the strings.

Sorry if that sounds a little nasty. I'm just frustrated right now.

 

[Isis1]

I won't block the number, but I cannot imagine Lil Bit ever getting in touch with Step for an emergency, or Step getting in touch with her if something happened to Dad.

Step has made it very clear that she does not like children, does not like Lil Bit, and does not like Sissy. OZ, the dope, has repeated this to both of the girls. And of course she has texted both of them stating very ugly things as proof. The real problem in this IMO is Dad because he is playing everyone against one another. But that's why I call him OZ. He's not the great and powerful, just the little guy standing behind the curtain trying to pull the strings.

Sorry if that sounds a little nasty. I'm just frustrated right now.

i completely understand...it's rough. they are really going to be angry about step mom. dad is going to be angry about it as well. but for all the wrong reasons.