Daughter Turns 18 and moves out

[Stiper2]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CO
My 18 yr old daughter was living with me through court order. She turned 18, still a junior in school and has decided she didn't want to listen to me anymore and decided the streets were a better choice for her. She quit school as well. She has been gone for 3 months. All of a sudden get a call that she wants to move back home. She agreed to follow the few rules in place and came back. She broke the rule (allow a 21 yr old homeless person into my home without consent for 2 days. She hid the guy in her room. He was escorted out and arrested by the police.(Current warrant out for his arrest) and she was asked to leave due to the fact she was told under no circumstances would any of her homeless friends were to ever come to the house. I get a call a day later from her demanding that I pay for a hotel room because I was legally responsible for her until the age 19. I know thats true IF she is living with me and is in school. But not sure if shes no longer in my house???

 

[Ohiogal]

Based on what is she saying YOU OWE her? She is a legal adult.

 

[pittrocks]

Tell her to get a job so she can support herself.

"Welcome to the real world!"

You don't have to pay her anything.

 

[Antigone*]

We had a similar situation with my step son. Dad said, "You want to act like a man, you got your wish."

Just so you know, my step son believes that my husband owes him and will owe him for the rest of his life. It is just something that his son will have to get over on his own.

My advice to you is this: Don't give up your values because your daughter's attempts to guilt you.

take care, ana

 

[CJane]

Isn't your daughter mentally ill?

 

[Stiper2]

Thanks for the replies....I kind of figured the great age of turning 18 she so has reminded me of so many times that she can do whatever she wants now protected me from the verbal abuse I get.
Yes, she has some mental issues that she will not deal with. After years of trying to help her I give up. Can't make her get help anymore. She will have to figure out what life is about the hard way.

 

[futuredust]

I know what you are going through, and letting go is the hardest thing to do.

I have an older daughter who is bi-polar, she refuses to medicate and her life swings from one extreme to the other. She has lived in about 30 different places over the last two years, most of them a couch at someones house she met.

I had to let her go for good the other day, she was here and got the other kids so very upset. She only thinks of herself most of the time and keeps telling everyone she is old enough to do as she wants.. and she is.

But, the consequences are hers to deal with since she is the one making the decisions. As much as we love them and as much as what they do hurts us, we cannot change anything.. they have to. All you can do is stand by your convictions and refuse to help them sink lower by coddling their actions and behavior.