daughters father trying to give up rights!!! help

[lisahebert11]

yes i live in texas and my ex lives in california he is trying to give his parental rights up to our three year old daughter. I dont actually mind that he wants to do that, i just dont know if he will be allowed. i have heard things like i need a husband willing to adopt her ect.. if anyone knows anything about this please help me

 

[Proserpina]

yes i live in texas and my ex lives in california he is trying to give his parental rights up to our three year old daughter. I dont actually mind that he wants to do that, i just dont know if he will be allowed. i have heard things like i need a husband willing to adopt her ect.. if anyone knows anything about this please help me

Assuming that Texas has jurisdiction, he can actually terminate his parental rights without a stepparent adoption taking place - as long as you consent.

Without consent? Not happening.

Also, you'll need to convince the court that you're not likely to end up needing State aid.

 

[lisahebert11]

ok. i am engaged just not married yet and he makes more than enough money to take care of her...i am a stay at home mom..thats why im thinking maybe it wont work cause were not legally married yet

 

[Proserpina]

ok. i am engaged just not married yet and he makes more than enough money to take care of her...i am a stay at home mom..thats why im thinking maybe it wont work cause were not legally married yet

What's the rush?

Wait until you're married, stay married (to show the court that you're stable) and since Dad is apparently on board with the idea, get yourselves to a local attorney and do the stepparent adoption.

Before you do though, ask yourselves a question.

If you divorce, are you going to be okay with your husband getting custody and you paying him child support?

Would he be okay with paying child support for a child not biologically his?

Please read the forums a bit - there are, honestly, too many threads where one of the parents tries to overturn a stepparent adoption and obligation when they break up with the other parent.

 

[lisahebert11]

yes i understan, but honestly i would rather her stepdad to be the one who has say over her even if we werent together...her dad is giving up rights because i wouldnt pay for plane tickets for my daughter to visit him. i just didnt think it was my responsibility when he is the one that moved

 

[Isis1]

yes i understan, but honestly i would rather her stepdad to be the one who has say over her even if we werent together...her dad is giving up rights because i wouldnt pay for plane tickets for my daughter to visit him. i just didnt think it was my responsibility when he is the one that moved

it's not your responsibility until a court says it is.

good grief...he gave up that easy?? on the other hand....

i recommend sitting on it. it really sounds like a heat of the moment thing to say. he may change his mind when he cools off.

 

[lisahebert11]

thats what im thinking also...what im thinking he is going to try to do is give up his rights so he doesnt have to pay child support and then still try to see her

 

[Isis1]

thats what im thinking also...what im thinking he is going to try to do is give up his rights so he doesnt have to pay child support and then still try to see her

well, that won't work. if he signs off on his parental rights and OBLIGATIONS, he will be a legal stranger and have no standing to sue for visitation.

 

[Proserpina]

it's not your responsibility until a court says it is.

good grief...he gave up that easy?? on the other hand....

i recommend sitting on it. it really sounds like a heat of the moment thing to say. he may change his mind when he cools off.

For the love of the poor underused, slighted, evaded, ignored, discounted, rejected, pooh-pooed, neglected search function!

I absolutely agree.

 

[lisahebert11]

well thats reassuring!!! its really sad the only person he is hurting is my daughter. i feel bad for her..shes only three though so maybe she will forget about him as time goes on

 

[Isis1]

well thats reassuring!!! its really sad the only person he is hurting is my daughter. i feel bad for her..shes only three though so maybe she will forget about him as time goes on

OR....dad will calm down and be a father like she really needs...come one...think positively!!

 

[lisahebert11]

maybe. but he doesnt do anything for her anyways. he hasnt seen her in seven months cause he cant afford to get her up to california. they intercepted his income tax 2000 dollars and asked me to give it to him...so its kinda hard to think positively with this guy

 

[Isis1]

maybe. but he doesnt do anything for her anyways. he hasnt seen her in seven months cause he cant afford to get her up to california. they intercepted his income tax 2000 dollars and asked me to give it to him...so its kinda hard to think positively with this guy

work on it. for your little girl. it's part of the parenting glories.

 

[lisahebert11]

lol trust me i have done everything in my power to help him in every way he needed it. and quit frankley im tired of streesing when he has nothing to strees about. he thinks that whatever is going on i will take care of it for him. he talks to me very rude infront of my daughter talks bad about me infront of her...and when she was going over there they were telling her to call his girl friend mom..i would never bad mouth him infront of her...i would never try to keep her from him...wich he has to done to me....i just want a nice life for her not all this fighting and that all there will be if he doesnt get his way