dead beat mom

[syskjw]

What is the name of your state?florida
I have had custody of my daughter fro over 2 years. Her mother has co custody. My daughters mother has not kept in contact with me but we let my daughter see her mom's grandparents every ohter weekend and her mom recently started spending the weekend while she is there. My question is does the mom have a responsibility to have some contact with me seems how she has to share the reponsibilities in desicions being made? And if her seeing her daughter while she is visiting shouldn't she have to come and pick her daughter up?

 

[abstract99]

1) does your CO say that you have to take the children over to great-grandmas house?
2) Does your CO say that you have to provide all transportation? If not what does it say?
3) Who is we?
4) you can contact mom and try to consult with her in the decisions that you are making but if she wants nothing to do with it then the weight is off of your sholders. It doesn't seem that mom is making any decisions right now (if I am wrong speek up) since she only sees her when she is at great-grandmas house.

 

[syskjw]

1. No the CO says nothing about visiting grandma. My daughter loves her granny so we let her see them.
2. No the CO order says nothing about transportation. The CO states I am the primary care giver and she is the co. That we are to share the decision making and I am to let my daughter visit her mother.
3. I have no contact information. No number and no address. I know she has moved about a dozen times in the 2 years. If we want to get a hold of her we have always have to go through my daughters grandmother. And no she never makes any decisions the grandmother has always called the shots.

 

[stealth2]

So what's the problem?

 

[syskjw]

The problem is theCO states the mother has to share the decision making of our daughter. I have no communications with her at all. Even when she visits at grandmas I never see the mother. She has came and gone before it is time to pick my daughter up. My daughter is fixing to start school and she has been seeing a dentist and needs a baby root canal done. I afraid that I might be found in contempt of the CO even if she is the one that is not in contact with me.

 

[stealth2]

So you provide grandma with a letter detailing the issue(s) and ask her to give it to Mom. Make sure you have specified a response date. You'll have done your part by notifying her.

 

[abstract99]

Mom has the ABILITY to participate on the decision making. As long as you make the effort to inform her of the decisions (i.e. certified mail) then your part is fulfilled. She doesn't have to care and it sounds like it might be for the better anyways. At least you don't have to argue with her about things that you want to do and things that she doesn't.