I am very sorry to hear of your Father's dementia, and the whole financial mess it often brings with it. I just lost my Father in August to vascular dementia, and I don't wish this awful disease on any family.
Luckily for us my Father realized fairly early on that he was having trouble paying his bills (not due to lack of money but he was having trouble with the figures). So I stepped in and paid their bills for them every month.This saved us a lot of hardship later.
I would suggest calling the different account holders and explain the situation.If that doesn't work, are you his guardian and power of attorney? You may be able to have his checks deposited into your account on his behalf to pay the assisted living center, or does his check already go directly to the AL center?
If it does then you probably don't have to worry about the companies attaching anything to get their money.
If it doesn't go directly to the AL center you may want to contact an eldercare attorney for a consultation.There is a forum on the Alzheimer's website that has all kinds of helpful information.They are a great resource for any family suffering through this awful disease.
It is so sad that we lose our loved ones long before they physically leave us, and the horror of having to stand aside and watch while dementia steals everything away from them ,bit by bit,and not be able to do anything is heartbreaking.
You have my deepest sympathy.Please check out the forum.If you need the actual web address it is
Message Boards Forum Index - Powered by Eve Community this doesn't come thru please send me a private message and i will get it to you, or just go to the alz.org website and go to the forums,then caregiver's forum.
Best of luck, and again, I am very sorry to hear about your Father.