disrespecting mom's rules

[gejewels]

What is the name of your state? Illinois
My ex husband recently moved to FL. He requested that I continue to allow my children to see his parents. He was never actively involved with them anyway. The grandparents usually cared for the children during his visitation periods. The problem is that the grandparents have allowed the children to do things that would never be allowed at home such as dating at 14 years old. I do not converse with them or the ex regarding the children and they have no idea how the children "really are" and why there are certain rules in place. My question is if I quit allowing this visitation, how likely are the courts to give them visitation? The grandparents love the grandchildren very much but I don't think it's a great thing to have an adult role model teaching them that's it's okay to do things without mom knowing.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Illinois
My ex husband recently moved to FL. He requested that I continue to allow my children to see his parents. He was never actively involved with them anyway. The grandparents usually cared for the children during his visitation periods. The problem is that the grandparents have allowed the children to do things that would never be allowed at home such as dating at 14 years old. I do not converse with them or the ex regarding the children and they have no idea how the children "really are" and why there are certain rules in place. My question is if I quit allowing this visitation, how likely are the courts to give them visitation? The grandparents love the grandchildren very much but I don't think it's a great thing to have an adult role model teaching them that's it's okay to do things without mom knowing.

You have no obligation to provide visitation to his parents. It would be up to him to get a long distance visitation plan put into place, and choose to share his time with his parents if he wants them to have time with the kids.

Therefore, you can have a talk with the grandparents, and make it clear that you will only continue to allow visitation if your rules are respected.

The grandparents would have standing to sue for visitation in Illinois, however its an expensive process for them, with no guarantee of a win.