Yes this is the right place.
I'd suggest you look on
www.divorcesource.com and
www.divorcenet.com under NC Divorce law for starters. If you're asking about any special concessions as a disabled spouse, neither site specifically addresses that issue per se. "Equitable division" states have provisos that alimony/maintenance *may* be awarded may be awarded to a spouse in poorer health, assuming he/she has less earnings or "earning capacity" than the "healthier spouse. But that just one of the many criteria that is used in an alimony determination. "Equitable division" states also allow for an award of over 50% of the marital assets, and an unequal distribution of the marital debts. In most cases, it's better to work splitting the assets/debts out between spouses and not have the Judge decide.
I, too, am "totally and permenantly disabled", live in a house that has been modified for wheelchair use when I had an accident 6 years ago, yet I still have to sell the house when my son graduates from High School in June 2004. Because I was married over 20 years, under Delaware law I was entitled to lifetime alimony. But more because we were married over than 20 years than because I was disabled. It's not much and hardly will sustain me in the lifestyle I "enjoyed".
I recommend you get a low cost consultation from a family law practioner.
Best wishes...
