don't know what to do...

[Hilarie]

(New York State)

My boyfriend (16) was living with his mother one week and his father the next. His father was extremely mean and abusive to him. After my boyfriend said he didn't want to go with his father anymore, his father would not give him his things back. My boyfriends mother now has full custody but the father will still not give him his things back. The father has some of my boyfriends clothes, his guitars, his CD's, his pictures, some school books, and much more. The thing is, some of that stuff was gifts from the father. Does my boyfriend still have the right to get his stuff back even though some of it was gifts? And if so, how would he go about doing it?

 

[Ukiah]

(New York State)

The father has some of my boyfriends clothes, his guitars, his CD's, his pictures, some school books, and much more.

The thing is, some of that stuff was gifts from the father.

Does my boyfriend still have the right to get his stuff back even though some of it was gifts? And if so, how would he go about doing it?

Are these material possesions THAT important to your boyfriend? If not walk away, let the father wallow in misery for a while, then when/if he comes to his senses, he may change for the better, and give the possesions back.

Material possesions can ALWAYS be replaced!!!

The school books will have to be given back or paid for - when you/he get the notice that the books are due back, send the note to the father - and let the school deal with him.

Parents oftentimes do not have control over the possesions of the child - even though the custodial parent has a right to the minor's earnings.