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atrain74
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We are in a dire situation. The father of the girl I want to marry has stated he will NOT allow this marriage and has made threats to that effect. He is a backwards man from another culture. His daughter came with him and has been raised with American sensibilities. The father has now decided for her that she will marry some uneducated illiterate person like himself from "back home". He is a hardened man who will not change. She, as an educated American, would kill herself before being married to someone like her father.
The fact that he is illiterate and is not very street-smart is helpful in case we decide to run. I however fear he may eventually solicit legal help (even though she's above 21) to help find her and we do not know what exactly he is capable of doing.
I had the idea of laying low (i.e. no paper work, insurance (ugh) for her) for a couple years until he "gave up". But even then, we would have the feeling of being on the run. This man his returning to his homeland for a visit in the next few months and the girl is worried he might "engage" her to some scrub of his choice. This is against our religion but he does not understand that.
He has refused to listen to her attempts at explaining I am the right man for her. So in fact he has no idea who I am or where we would live to even begin searching. But in the back of my head, I fear him finding something out and mostly I fear he might just take revenge on my entire family, parents included. That would really suck and is making me super cautious.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Train
The fact that he is illiterate and is not very street-smart is helpful in case we decide to run. I however fear he may eventually solicit legal help (even though she's above 21) to help find her and we do not know what exactly he is capable of doing.
I had the idea of laying low (i.e. no paper work, insurance (ugh) for her) for a couple years until he "gave up". But even then, we would have the feeling of being on the run. This man his returning to his homeland for a visit in the next few months and the girl is worried he might "engage" her to some scrub of his choice. This is against our religion but he does not understand that.
He has refused to listen to her attempts at explaining I am the right man for her. So in fact he has no idea who I am or where we would live to even begin searching. But in the back of my head, I fear him finding something out and mostly I fear he might just take revenge on my entire family, parents included. That would really suck and is making me super cautious.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Train