Ex Boyfriend owes just shy of $1000

[sd334]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Iowa

My ex-boyfriend of nearly four years and I ended things because of cheating. He owes me $937 from this last summer. I have texts from him telling me that he plans to pay me this money and even the breakdown of what it is from. Every time I ask him to pay me he claims he doesn't have the money. He agreed to pay me by mid October but still hasn't done so. Is there anyway I can sue in small claims court for the amount owed? I have texts still on my computer of me telling him that I want him to agree to a payment plan and him being unreasonable about it. Please I just want this man out of my life and my $937 back.

 

[HRZ]

WHat you tell him doesn't count for much ..his acknowledgement of the debt and promise to pay by date XX do matter

SO sue him in small claims court ....

 

[Zigner]

What are the debts for?

 

[sd334]

What are the debts for?

I paid to fly him to visit me as he did not have the funds at that moment. Another is for tickets to a concert I provided funds for both my ticket and his he promised to pay back for his ticket. And I wanted an item you could only get in New York City at the time, where he goes to school, so I sent him the money to buy that. He never bought the item and pocketed my money instead. All of these I have him agreeing to pay me back for.

 

[adjusterjack]

Please I just want this man out of my life and my $937 back.

Those two desires are mutually exclusive.

If you want him out of your life, chalk up the debt as tuition for a life lesson from the school of hard knocks that you NEVER get financially involved with boy friends. Get over it and move on.

Or, you can sue him and keep him in your life for a long time. You'll have to sue him where he lives, he's a deadbeat, he isn't likely to respond. If you get a default judgment he isn't likely to pay and you can spend years trying to enforce it.

Your choice.

 

[xylene]

The plane tickets and the concert were arguably gifts, by you to him.

The funds for the purchase is much more clear cut.

 

[HRZ]

A written record of his agreeing to pay OP may take it out from under gift cloud....but I agree with adjusterjack that a SC action brought in NY is likely to be very frustrating and unrewarding unless there are major missing elements to post.

Take a deep breath and move on.

 

[Just Blue]

I paid to fly him to visit me as he did not have the funds at that moment. Another is for tickets to a concert I provided funds for both my ticket and his he promised to pay back for his ticket.

Please explain how these ^ items came about. In detail. Thanks.

 

[Zigner]

A written record of his agreeing to pay OP may take it out from under gift cloud....but I agree with adjusterjack that a SC action brought in NY is likely to be very frustrating and unrewarding unless there are major missing elements to post.

If they were a gift, then they were a gift and the other party is under no legal obligation to pay for them. If the other party is under no legal obligation to pay for them and then says he'll pay for him, he's still under no legal obligation to do so.

Take a deep breath and move on.

I agree that the OP needs to do this.

 

[latigo]

Those two desires are mutually exclusive.

If you want him out of your life, chalk up the debt as tuition for a life lesson from the school of hard knocks that you NEVER get financially involved with boy friends. Get over it and move on.

Or, you can sue him and keep him in your life for a long time. You'll have to sue him where he lives, he's a deadbeat, he isn't likely to respond. If you get a default judgment he isn't likely to pay and you can spend years trying to enforce it.

Your choice.

The lady is considering taking the guy before a judge to try and collect a debt, not to marry him! Moreover, she is asking for legal advice, not a lecture! Plus I think we can give her credit for knowing that a judgment against the deadbeat wouldn't be exactly bankable.

 

[Dema]

The lady is considering taking the guy before a judge to try and collect a debt, not to marry him! Moreover, she is asking for legal advice, not a lecture! Plus I think we can give her credit for knowing that a judgment against the deadbeat wouldn't be exactly bankable.

Latigo gives great advice.

 

[Zigner]

Latigo gives great advice.

Yep. It doesn't mean that the OP has a snowball's chance in you-know-where, of course.

 

[adjusterjack]

Latigo gives great advice.

Snort, chortle, chuckle, LOL.

 

[quincy]

Latigo gives great advice.

Yes. latigo's posts often offer valuable information and sound advice, although editing of his less-valuable content is sometimes necessary.

I don't think you happened to select one of latigo's better posts to praise, however, as his post here does not offer much in the way of legal advice or legal information.