Ex filed for custody after being divorced for 11 years...

[passionatemom10]

I have been divorced for almost 11 years. I have a 12 year old that is dealing me fits because he has decided he wants to go and live with his dad. His dad has recently filed for custody. His dad has been in and out of his life for the last 11 years. My son is giving me a very hard time. He is getting in trouble at school and his grades are horrible. I believe his dad has put him up to doing all this to help make it look like I can't control him. He hangs on every word his dad utters although he is not a very nice person. He harasses me with text, voicemail and email messages. He was abusive when we were married. I am losing my hair and it is making me physically ill. I have thought about letting my son go stay with his dad until the Christmas break for school with a proposed agreement. I believe that he will find in a very short time after changing schools and staying there a few weeks that the grass is not greener on the other side. Will this kill my custody case if I do it? I can't afford an attorney so I am having to fight this custody thing myself.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama

 

[passionatemom10]

Someone please respond and help me.

 

[Ohiogal]

Take a chill pill. You have two posts open on the same thing and you have been answered on the other thread. Try not to start more than one thread. Try to realize we are volunteers and we don't answer to demands or orders from those requesting help.

 

[passionatemom10]

Sorry to offend you but as I was looking at other posts that were appearing there were answers very quickly and at that point my post had not been looked at so I changed the title hoping that it would spark more interest. I didn't mean to upset anyone or seem as though I were making demands. I just wanted to make sure someone saw my post and thought it was as important as some of the others that had tons of repsonses. When it is an issue that deals with your child and you are, in fact, a good mother it is scary and hurtful. I am new to this as I am sure you can tell and I am still trying to figure out how it works. Thanks for your response.