Beach-Baby
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? California
My ex doesn't want to pay child support. He has fought it tooth and nail since day 1. I have part of his support garnished. The child care reimbursement isn't garnished, and of course he has stopped paying that voluntarily. He wants to relinquish his rights. He says our child is "spoiled, a brat, only wants attention", etc.... Well, of course our child wants attention, that is how kids are! He had a child before we were married, and he relinquished his rights to him. I didn't know all the specifics and of course he gave me HIS version of why things happened as they did. He isn't poor. He has a very nice home, new expensive vehicles, Grown-boy toys, etc.... He just hates the fact that some of his money has to go into MY bank account. It wouldn't matter to him if our child had NO food, as long as he didn't have to pay support.
I am taking him to court for several things. First, to get the delinquent support. Second, to get garnishment for ALL support including child care reimbursement. Third, to get sole custody since he does not make decisions for our child based on the best interests of our child but the best interests of his wallet. If it costs him a nickel, he will scream and rage at me. I have voicemails of him literally SCREAMING at me for buying her glasses (which he has to pay 1/2).
He tries to tell the court that his feelings are due to his feelings of ME. Personally, I don't care WHAT he does and who he does it with, but he cannot deal with the fact that he was LEFT. He is a control freak, and ANY woman leaving him is an insult. It has nothing do to with love, but with control. He was also physically abusive.
I am remarried to a GREAT guy in the military who LOVES my child. But we cannot make it without the support. As everyone knows, military isn't the best paying job in the world......
Can he talk the judge into letting him relinquish his rights????? I have statements from teachers, etc saying that HE is very inattentive, disinterested while myself and my husband are very involved, loving parents. My ex has even snidely told my child that "you look just like your mother". I think that is why he has such hateful feelings for our child. (I have copies of all the correspondence that he wrote these things in.....yes, he put his hateful feelings of his child IN WRITING....
Any chance a judge will fall for his baloney??????
My ex doesn't want to pay child support. He has fought it tooth and nail since day 1. I have part of his support garnished. The child care reimbursement isn't garnished, and of course he has stopped paying that voluntarily. He wants to relinquish his rights. He says our child is "spoiled, a brat, only wants attention", etc.... Well, of course our child wants attention, that is how kids are! He had a child before we were married, and he relinquished his rights to him. I didn't know all the specifics and of course he gave me HIS version of why things happened as they did. He isn't poor. He has a very nice home, new expensive vehicles, Grown-boy toys, etc.... He just hates the fact that some of his money has to go into MY bank account. It wouldn't matter to him if our child had NO food, as long as he didn't have to pay support.
I am taking him to court for several things. First, to get the delinquent support. Second, to get garnishment for ALL support including child care reimbursement. Third, to get sole custody since he does not make decisions for our child based on the best interests of our child but the best interests of his wallet. If it costs him a nickel, he will scream and rage at me. I have voicemails of him literally SCREAMING at me for buying her glasses (which he has to pay 1/2).
He tries to tell the court that his feelings are due to his feelings of ME. Personally, I don't care WHAT he does and who he does it with, but he cannot deal with the fact that he was LEFT. He is a control freak, and ANY woman leaving him is an insult. It has nothing do to with love, but with control. He was also physically abusive.
I am remarried to a GREAT guy in the military who LOVES my child. But we cannot make it without the support. As everyone knows, military isn't the best paying job in the world......
Can he talk the judge into letting him relinquish his rights????? I have statements from teachers, etc saying that HE is very inattentive, disinterested while myself and my husband are very involved, loving parents. My ex has even snidely told my child that "you look just like your mother". I think that is why he has such hateful feelings for our child. (I have copies of all the correspondence that he wrote these things in.....yes, he put his hateful feelings of his child IN WRITING....
Any chance a judge will fall for his baloney??????