I don't know for certain that he is claiming them, but I believe he is. It never occurred to me that he may be committing fraud in this fashion, but he has used state & local agencies unscrupulously, & according to the income he has & the amount I know he has been receiving, the numbers don't add up. He doesn't provide support financially to his children.
Three evenings ago his ex-wife called me in tears because she was served with custody papers also. He is trying to get custody of my son, and her 3 children (they have a custody order in place that gives him every other weekend & 2 weeks during the summer). His ex-wife & I have been in contact for several weeks now, she agreed to testify for my case. She also informed me of a CYS case that opened 3 years ago because he choked his oldest child & beat her 2 younger children with a belt. The result of their investigation was that his home visitation was suspended, and he was allowed visitation supervised by a government agency for an hour per week. That was the case for one year, until he completed an anger management class (it's a 6 month class, he had to take it 2 times in a row before his case was closed by CYS).
It was during conversation with his ex-wife that it occurred to her that he is probably collecting the Pell Grants using the children. She wants this to end, and so do I.
This is the 3rd time they have gone through custody; the original from their divorce gave both of them 50/50 physical, the second time he took her to court he actually lost time, and it was reduced to every other weekend. He has taken out 4 PFA's against her, and I've read them, they're ridiculous. He has reported her to CYS 7 consecutive years, and every case has been closed right away.
I want this to end. If he is defrauding the federal government, I think it will end. I have read a lot about hostile parenting, & co-parenting. I haven't been hostile towards him. I just don't want to lose my son, and I don't want to go to court for the next 16 years. He took my son's diapers from daycare to use while he has our son. I asked his mother to please have him drop off his gloves, hat, & stroller when he dropped our son at daycare, and it wasn't there. When I asked her about it, she told me that he has to talk to his lawyer before he can give me the stroller & hat. Everybody told me I should take the diapers, leaving just enough to cover 2 days of daycare, and I didn't do it because i don't want my son to go without diapers. If he's taking them from daycare I assume he doesn't have any at home, and I don't want my kid to suffer because his father has his priorities backwards.
And he managed to find a lawyer. He filed in forma pauperis for both custody cases, and he now has a pro bono lawyer. She graduated 2009, Moravian Law, Cum Laude.
Our conciliation hearing is Thursday. I am disappointed that he will have an attorney, but I am still hoping that the master will find in my favor. However, whatever the master decides, we will be going to court. He has no financial stake in it, so he will push as long as his free lawyer will work, and I am confident that my son is better off with me...so either way, this is going to a judge.
He is extremely manipulative. I am very scared, his ex-wife is sick of going to court. If he is lying to receive grant money, what is the probable outcome?
