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[lqqn4advice]

What is the name of your state? North Dakota

My boyfriend is being charged with DV. And it is a class C felony in this state. They did not take a statement from me that night and on the night that they talk about, I was having a shizophrenic episode. It was triggered by a sexual act we performed. It leaves light red marks on the sides of me neck and they were gone by the next morning. They do not have a statement from him. No officer has ever questioned him about that night. There is nothing in the case file that has his side of what happened. The report that was made is incorrect about the abuse. I am not in an abusive relationship. I just have not told my boyfriend that there is something wronge with me. He didnt know what to do with me that night. I was also drinking. The things that were said by me were not true. The police spoke to my children that night. I never gave my permission. The Prosecuting attorney said that there was an assault happening and that they witnessed it. My children said they were asleep and I woke them up screming at them. I believe them. There was no assault happening when the officers arrived. He had left before they were called. He did not know that they were called. He doesnt know I have a bipolar shizo affective disorder nor PTSD. I met with the prosecuting attorney on wed and she said to me that she sees many women like me coming in to get charges dropped and that I do not know better. She also said that she would help me. This angered me as I went in with a release of information for her to sign so she may see my diagnosis and to see that I am not creidible. She doesnt believe me. I am going to file complaint on her as I have read through the codes and regs that lawyers are supposed to adhere to. I told her many times in that meeting that the report is false and that I had openly lied due to mental state. She didnt care to hear it and made stereotypical remarks to me about my case and abusive women. There is more to this story, please help.What is the name of your state?

 

[CJane]

You're a (presumably) unmedicated schizophrenic w/PTSD and you are LYING about it to your LOVER, but trying to convince the prosecutor that you're being honest with HER?

Seriously?

Where is the father of your children?

 

[lqqn4advice]

unfortunately

yes i am.....you see I have made alot of progress in my life and there is alot of stigma attached to being mentally ill er go the comment u made, there is no stigma when you pay taxes, work 50hours a week and raise intelligently gifted children. I did not remember the cops being there....I took a release of information to her. I told her in front of 3 other women who work for the city that it was not the truth that it was a lie and that i am ready to make it right and be held responsible for my actions. She told me that she deals with alot of women who come in to have charges dropped. The guy I am with still has no clue and is ready to go but his bond keeps him here. People treat others differently when they know something is wronge with them. Take a cancer patient, for example, but unlike cancer, shizophrenia gets no cards, PTSD is laughed at. Yes i have lied about it and that one lie seems to be tearing apart my progess. Now that I am trying to fix it, I am again facing stigma. Now can someone please help me? Do I say in court that I told the prosecutor that the report was a lie? Do I go to his lawyer. And just to let you understand, I repeatedly stated that it was a lie. In front of her, her assistant and the domestic aduse advocates. I also said that had he known what was going on it may have never escaleted into a full blown episode. I never gave permisson for my children to talk to the police. I feel like my civil rights are being violated in some manner. It doesnt matter if he goes as I already know that he will. What matters is that I need to right this issue so that I may ask GOD for forgiveness. Please.....

 

[lqqn4advice]

where is the father of my children?

He lives in kansas with his wife and their six children. He and I were together for a couple years before we met the people we are with now. My having children out of wedlock has no bearing on my contributions to society though. And I am here to get some legal feedback or advice thank you.

 

[Just Blue]

The DA is not going to drop the charges.

The police do not need your permission to speak to witnesses.

Get help for your mental disorder(s).

Your civil rights have not been violated.

Testify, when the time comes, on behalf of your boyfriend. Expect no one to believe you.

Give custody of your children to their father so that they have a chance for a normal childhood.

 

[BL]

Your complaint about the DA is not going anywhere .

Think about what you said .

You do not remember , not even that the police were there .

You say that you lied , but you can not possibly know that , because you do not remember .

If you lie again on purpose , and try to portray a picture in your mind , and tell that tale , it won't do any good .

Unless I missed it , who called the police ?

 

[CJane]

He lives in kansas with his wife and their six children. He and I were together for a couple years before we met the people we are with now. My having children out of wedlock has no bearing on my contributions to society though. And I am here to get some legal feedback or advice thank you.

I'm not talking about you having children out of wedlock. I'm asking because I'm wondering if you were honest with HIM (the father of your other children) about your mental issues.

And ya know what? Your cancer analogy was apt. Because you can't 'make progress' with cancer w/out treatment. And you're not 'making progress' with your life or your mental illness w/out treatment.

Bay is right. Testify on behalf of your BF. But if you're not honest about your issues/illness/etc (and even if you ARE) you can expect everyone to think you're lying to cover for him.

Whether or not you're honest with your BF is obviously completely up to you. But if you're having blackouts so extreme you don't even remember a police response to your residence, your children are in danger.

 

[lqqn4advice]

I knew it was wronge

Today it is being dropped to a misdemeanor!!!!! The Prosecuting attorney here told me that he is a registered sex offender. Her information is wronge. When he told his lawyer what she along with what the police officers have said about him in this small community he is pushing for dismissal. He has turned down both plea bargains she has sent to him. He is not a sex offender. He was charged but the judgement says not guilty. This lady has been claiming that he is a violent sex offender and that we are some poor miseducated minorities. An abused woman, a poor uneducated, lying woman who is such a victim that she doesnt know what the constitution is...I might abuse my ownself from time to time but it is just not the case here. And I am not a mentally ill person every day. I hold a professional position at a YMCA. This attorney believes her information is correct about him and I. She is wronge. Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction! You have to understand.....north dakota is a little behind in some areas. It is still rural out here. Only one million people if that live in this state. And we live in a conservative community. Oh TTL, now the next question I have, does he have grounds for a case for this prosecuting attorney's continuous statements that he is a registered sex offender? We both have tried to tell her that there is some misinformation somewhere. He is not on the national registery for the state it occured in nor in the national database that is available on the internet. And where is this list of old, settled charges coming from? It doesn't have the judgements. When I told her she was wronge and that she can look it up online through the district court webpage to verify it, she became upset. Her face turned red. I tried to show her the search results from the database online, she did not want to look at it. She actually said to me that she has heard my excuses many times before from other women. I believe she is biased, and making prejudgements where in her profession she should let the facts talk. The facts are that I do have a condition where I can spaz out and not remember if I dont control it. Her police report is wronge. My children were asleep and later wakened by my episode. You know what it doesnt even matter at this point. The lawyer we spoke to said that we have to let things continue and keep documenting everything that occurs. Police are saying he is a child molester. Someone wrote pervert on our vehicle. This lady is unbelievable. Oh and when he recieved his not guilty judgment it was in 1985 and he was freshly 18. Where this wronge information is coming from, we dont know but the lawyer here is not willing to make a call to virginia or look at our papers that say otherwise. Some people do believe that they are more intelligent and in this case it is going to cost something. PEOPLE, I READ SOMEWHERE THAT YOU ACT LIKE A SCARECROW YOU WILL BE LIT ON FIRE**************..SPEAK UP!