Fighting for Fathers rights! - California

[David Hicks]

I don't want to take up a lot of folks time so I'll be quick to the point. I am fighting desperately to keep my children from continuing to get screwed up by my ex-wife. She continues to be so angry at me for divorcing her that my children continue to suffer terribly due to this.

I heard about some 'light at the end of the tunnel' called a new "Make-up Law" in California. It's supposed to be more 'fair' in consideration of fathers rights finally!

Does anyone have any insite to this new "Make-up Law"?

Thank you,
David Hicks...

 

[Ukiah]

I don't want to take up a lot of folks time so I'll be quick to the point. I am fighting desperately to keep my children from continuing to get screwed up by my ex-wife. She continues to be so angry at me for divorcing her that my children continue to suffer terribly due to this.

I heard about some 'light at the end of the tunnel' called a new "Make-up Law" in California. It's supposed to be more 'fair' in consideration of fathers rights finally!

Does anyone have any insite to this new "Make-up Law"?

Thank you,
David Hicks...

I haven't heard of this Make up Law, what you should start doing is looking up the California Codes @

http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/calaw.html


It is a lot to look at and you may discover things you never knew... Give it a try. Look at section(s) 3020 down through 3192. At least it is a start.

 

[cdcard]

Dear David Hicks:
A "make-up" law. Hmmmm. That's a new one; I'm not familiar with it. Check out the website recommended by Ukiah; perhaps you'll find it there. In the meantime, as a former family law attorney in California, it has been my personal experience that courts base their custody/visitation orders on the facts in front of them. It sounds like you're currently representing yourself. You may want to consider consulting with a local family law attorney (not necessarily hiring one; just paying one for consultation time) about your case. Bring in all the court orders thus far, tell the attorney ALL the facts regarding custody/visitation, and see if the attorney can't help you come up with a case strategy you might have missed, or help you introduce evidence that you may not have introduced properly and didn't introduce at all because you didn't know it was pertinent. Best of luck to you. Come back if you have questions along the way.

 

[jajamase]

Father's rights

Mr Hicks,
Although I AM NOT a lawyer, you might want to look at the information here; www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm
This site is based on English law, not US law but has given me much insight about fathers getting screwed during a divorce. Again, this info has little or nothing to do with US laws but might trigger something in your mind or your atty's regarding help for you. Good luck.

 

[jyoung]

Good luck to you, I'm in a similar situation in Florida.
My advice is to document everything and try to build your case.

 

[Ukiah]

Re: Father's rights

This site is based on English law, not US law but has given me much insight about fathers getting screwed during a divorce.

First of all... keep in mind that it's not only the father's who get "screwed" in divorce/custody/visitation issues, it's the children, they never said "Hey Mom, hey Dad, why don't you get a divorce and run me through the ringer". And "Go ahead, use me to get information out of the other parent" OR "Hell, I always wanted to see what it'd be like to be messed up with low self-esteem, emotional issues, and being interrogated by both parent's". I mean come on, divorce is not two-sided, it is three sided. Include the children, they're the one's who are having to foot the bill for all the emotional crap that's being done to both sides.


Sorry for venting, but people who are going through divorce, etc. seem to forget the children suffer just as much, if not more than both the parents. The parent's get it done and over with, get remaried etc. The children have to live with this the rest of their lives.

I'm not saying that Mr. Hicks is doing this, but jajamase seems to be partial to those males who have problems, what about the women? I know you're not familiar with what's been going on with me and mostly my child, but i will tell you, she is suffering more with her father than she would ever have with me. He molested his daughters, lied to everyone in court, they believed him, and the courts took my child and gave her to the one person she needed to be protected from! Now tell me, what does your web-site say about men who do what he has done?

NOTHING.

 

[Cindy0575]

Good luck. I am with you all the way. My boyfriends ex sounds a lot like yours. She has become worse now that she see's him and I are doing a lot better and she is on a downward spiral. The only thing she has is their daughter and she is mentally screwing her up. The ex is married and is having an affair (she takes the daughter with her to the other guy's house), and she has become pregnant and does not know who the father is. The worst part of all of this is that the daughter knows all about it!! She is only 5! The ex has admitted confiding to her daughter about all this (she has said the 5 year old id her "best friend") yet, when my boyfriend and her went to court recently for more custody, the court didnt even read his statement. They completely ignored all of this. I am a teacher and have read numerous studies on the long term effects of the "overburdened child". We are worried about the child to a point where we have had dreams and nightmares about it. Yet no one seems to care. Good luck.