Found my child!!!!

[Mom_of_Two]

I will apologize to my child but not the mother. I hurt my child not the mother.

You totally disappear for over a year, and now you want to drag mom through court demanding your "rights" now that you have new wife and you want your little happy family, all the while mom has been actually taking care of your child without your help financially or physically....you should definitely apologize to mom!

 

[SESmama]

So mom, having to raise the child all by herself, deserves no respect from you? Having to try and ease the pain of the child asking "why doesn't daddy see me anymore?", to try and support herself and the child without you? In other words this is still about you.

 

[InfantCustody]

I will apologize to my child but not the mother. I hurt my child not the mother.

Good luck with that, Buddy. You are likely to get a LLLLLOOOOTTTT further if you apologize to MOM and try to play nice through the courts.

You clearly show you know nothing of being a parent, because ANY PARENT would tell you IF SOMEONE HURTS YOUR CHILD, THEY HURT YOU AS WELL!

You just win more and more "brownie points" every time you open your keyboard!

 

[LdiJ]

I will apologize to my child but not the mother. I hurt my child not the mother.

Ok, now I am truly done with you and your threads.

 

[Proserpina]

I will apologize to my child but not the mother. I hurt my child not the mother.

Well, that just about says it all right there.


Are you honestly saying that you're not man enough to suck it up and apologize to the person who has raised your child?

I know what a real man, and a real father, would do.

 

[sometwo]

I will apologize to my child but not the mother. I hurt my child not the mother.

WRONG

I had to stop at this post. You just don't get it. The mother of your child also had to suffer through YOU walking out on your child and choosing your new family over your child.

The mother is the one that has to explain this to the child and hear the child wonder why her daddy isn't around or didn't love them enough to be there.

She is the one that has to wipe those tear, who is left so explain , who has had to ON HER OWN raise this child for a year while you went off and did what you want. She did not get a break to live her life. The child is her life and she didn't walk out on the child YOU did.

You did hurt the mom and both deserve an apology. Trust me I deal with a child here that his mom walked out and has been gone 2 or 3 years now (honestly I'd have to look it up because I've lost count). That child is my stepson and even though I'm a legal stranger to him His dad and I also deal with that fact that he is the one to suffer. So mom darn well deserves at LEAST an apology!

ETA: Every time I think you might "get" it I am blown back by your posts. OP sit and think about if the shoe were on the other foot. What if she walked out on you to go be with her new family and left you to figure everything out and raise the child by yourself. Or what if you were the child in that situation. (my dad was never around). For once stop thinking about yourself. Put yourself last from here on out. It is NOT about you.

 

[Artemis_ofthe_Hunt]

So mom, having to raise the child all by herself, deserves no respect from you? Having to try and ease the pain of the child asking "why doesn't daddy see me anymore?", to try and support herself and the child without you? In other words this is still about you.

He's actually quite lucky that Mom didn't attempt to terminate his rights, no support, no contact? Not sure about NJ, but this would constitute abandonment in most states that I've looked into...

 

[justliving]

WRONG

I had to stop at this post. You just don't get it. The mother of your child also had to suffer through YOU walking out on your child and choosing your new family over your child.

The mother is the one that has to explain this to the child and hear the child wonder why her daddy isn't around or didn't love them enough to be there.

She is the one that has to wipe those tear, who is left so explain , who has had to ON HER OWN raise this child for a year while you went off and did what you want. She did not get a break to live her life. The child is her life and she didn't walk out on the child YOU did.

You did hurt the mom and both deserve an apology. Trust me I deal with a child here that his mom walked out and has been gone 2 or 3 years now (honestly I'd have to look it up because I've lost count). That child is my stepson and even though I'm a legal stranger to him His dad and I also deal with that fact that he is the one to suffer. So mom darn well deserves at LEAST an apology!

ETA: Every time I think you might "get" it I am blown back by your posts. OP sit and think about if the shoe were on the other foot. What if she walked out on you to go be with her new family and left you to figure everything out and raise the child by yourself. Or what if you were the child in that situation. (my dad was never around). For once stop thinking about yourself. Put yourself last from here on out. It is NOT about you.

actually my father left my mother when i was just two years old...so I know what it feels like to lose a father and not have one around. AND...prior to my leaving, the mother and i argur constantly and she would use my child as a pawn whenever she got angry with me. This is about me and my child, no one else matters..you guys can say what you want. My child Will know me, my wife and her sibling and any other child me and my wife make together.. and if i cant see my child, then when she grow up, I'll tell her why I couldn't see her (because mommy and daddy hated each other and couldn't get along so daddy left).

 

[InfantCustody]

actually my father left my mother when i was just two years old...so I know what it feels like to lose a father and not have one around. AND...prior to my leaving, the mother and i argur constantly and she would use my child as a pawn whenever she got angry with me. This is about me and my child, no one else matters..you guys can say what you want. My child Will know me, my wife and her sibling and any other child me and my wife make together.. and if i cant see my child, then when she grow up, I'll tell her why I couldn't see her (because mommy and daddy hated each other and couldn't get along so daddy left).

YOU are a horrible person to think of saying such a thing to a child. Plain and simple. For anyone to even think of saying something like that to a child should be criminal. Plain and simple.

I sincerely hope you get everything you deserve when you get before a judge!

ETA: Yes, to you this is about someone other than your child. It is about the new family you have made with your wife. So, really, it is all about your wife and new child(ren). Your daughter didn't matter to you until you made a new family!

 

[justliving]

YOU are a horrible person to think of saying such a thing to a child. Plain and simple. For anyone to even think of saying something like that to a child should be criminal. Plain and simple.

I sincerely hope you get everything you deserve when you get before a judge!

ETA: Yes, to you this is about someone other than your child. It is about the new family you have made with your wife. So, really, it is all about your wife and new child(ren). Your daughter didn't matter to you until you made a new family!

I wasn't saying it to be rude or sarcastic. It is the truth and when she is 18 (that's what I mean by getting older) I WILL tel her the truth. Just because people have kids together doesn't meant they have to stay together

 

[InfantCustody]

I wasn't saying it to be rude or sarcastic. It is the truth and when she is 18 (that's what I mean by getting older) I WILL tel her the truth. Just because people have kids together doesn't meant they have to stay together

They don't have to stay together...but anyone who LOVES their child will never speak ill of the other parent to that child...whether the child is 1 day or 100 years old.

Your ex (the Mother you hate so much) is one half of your daughter. When you tell your daughter you hated her Mother so much you left her...you are telling your daughter you hate one half of who she is!

Dad of the year...

ETA: I have a strong dislike of my ex...he makes my eye twitch. But for the sake of my son...I put on a happy face and always talk about Daddy in a happy, positive manner to him or within his ear shot. That is the way it will be - forever. My personal issues with his Father have nothing to do with the baby we share. Why don't you take that as food for thought...

 

[justliving]

YOU are a horrible person to think of saying such a thing to a child. Plain and simple. For anyone to even think of saying something like that to a child should be criminal. Plain and simple.

I sincerely hope you get everything you deserve when you get before a judge!

ETA: Yes, to you this is about someone other than your child. It is about the new family you have made with your wife. So, really, it is all about your wife and new child(ren). Your daughter didn't matter to you until you made a new family!

new family? my family is my family..new or not and my daughter is my family

 

[Mnemosyne]

Quite presumptuous of you to expect that your child will listen to you at age 18 if you demonstrate a history of disappearing on her before then.

I wasn't saying it to be rude or sarcastic. It is the truth and when she is 18 (that's what I mean by getting older) I WILL tel her the truth. Just because people have kids together doesn't meant they have to stay together

 

[InfantCustody]

new family? my family is my family..new or not and my daughter is my family

If your daughter was your family...you wouldn't have walked out on her and you wouldn't be in this fine boat that you have sailed for yourself.

How old is your "new child?" How long have you had the "new wife?"

And...drum roll...now that you have a "new family" you want your daughter.

 

[InfantCustody]

He's actually quite lucky that Mom didn't attempt to terminate his rights, no support, no contact? Not sure about NJ, but this would constitute abandonment in most states that I've looked into...

He is quite lucky...the child? Can't really say the same applies for her. I guess time will tell...