What is the name of your state? I live in nevada as do the kids and their mother, we have been divorced for over 2 years now with a 4 to 5 month reconciliation at about 1 yr. probably not relevant. we have up to now been living in the same house in separate bedrooms switching every other week as the parent with custody so to speak. About a month ago she started dating someone and is basically living with him only coming back here when the children are awake and not in school. She finds reasons to put them to bed as early as 5:30 sometimes so she can leave and go back to his house. we have 4 children under 18 still in the house, one of whom is autistic albeit high functioning close to the Asperger's side of the syndrome (he is 12 and in the 6th grade). The other children are 16 a boy in high school, and 8 year old in 3rd grade and a 7 year old in 1st. There is also a 23 yr old who also is autistic and while high functioning he has emotional issues along with a obedience dysfunctional disorder. She some how became his legal guardian so that she could collect SSDI for him. Her interaction with the children is minimal, she works from home and when it is her week she relies on the 23 yr old to do a lot of the stuff the kids need like making breakfast and taking them to the bus stop. so there is a 3 hour window in the morning that she could interact, but mostly doesn't as she is on her computer working or on her phone. The 16 yr old is doing his own thing for the most partis on both the JV and Varsity BBall teams so not a lot of interaction there either. The 12 yr old gets off the bus at 2:00 pm and she rarely picks him up she leaves that to the 23 yr old. the other 2 get off the bus at 3:45 and like I say she tries to get them in bed as soon as possible, but in any case they are in bed by 6:00 (7 yr old) and 6:30 (8 yr old). She generally leaves at that point and leaves it to the 23 yr old to put the 12 yr old to bed or makes him go to bed at 7:00 pm and then leaves. When it is not her week her contact is almost nil. She never calls the kids on her own and when they call her she gets off the phone as soon as possible always less than 5 mins. There was a drug addiction problem that I could prove up until about 6 mos ago, she would always pick up my pain meds with hers and then give me 1 or 2 a day when I was prescribed 4 with about 10 extra for bad days. She has in the past taken large amounts of money out of the bank account and gone to vegas and bought pills from someone she knows out there. She also vapes and though I have repeatedly asked her not to she vapes in the car with the children present.
she has now expressed that she wants to move out and take the kids every other week. The 23 yr old has said he will go but they have terible arguments and she threatened to call the cops on him just last week. the 16 yr old has no interest in going with her at all. this house is the only place the 2 younger ones have ever lived and the 12 yr old barely remembers the place before this. I am concerned about the stability of moving them every other week and the other person and his 3 boys are a factor that I worry about as well. I am 64 retired and able to be with the children at all times, yes these are my biological kids, and on a fixed budget that includes SSI for the 4 children under 18. if they are not here for 50% of the time I would lose that money and then I would not be able to keep the house or get another that could accommodate them. So I am wondering if I would have any grounds to ask for full custody with her able to visit at any time sans the b/f. Also, if I was granted full custody would I get any child support. We have a 50/50 custody agreement and she has agreed to sign over the deed to me with only about 20% equity ($45,000 to $55,000 after a sale). This is probably a lot of irrelevant info and I apologize.
she has now expressed that she wants to move out and take the kids every other week. The 23 yr old has said he will go but they have terible arguments and she threatened to call the cops on him just last week. the 16 yr old has no interest in going with her at all. this house is the only place the 2 younger ones have ever lived and the 12 yr old barely remembers the place before this. I am concerned about the stability of moving them every other week and the other person and his 3 boys are a factor that I worry about as well. I am 64 retired and able to be with the children at all times, yes these are my biological kids, and on a fixed budget that includes SSI for the 4 children under 18. if they are not here for 50% of the time I would lose that money and then I would not be able to keep the house or get another that could accommodate them. So I am wondering if I would have any grounds to ask for full custody with her able to visit at any time sans the b/f. Also, if I was granted full custody would I get any child support. We have a 50/50 custody agreement and she has agreed to sign over the deed to me with only about 20% equity ($45,000 to $55,000 after a sale). This is probably a lot of irrelevant info and I apologize.
