What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? California, after 6 generations I'm hoping that is going to change sooner rather than later! I've been the primary caregiver to my 78 year old mother. She just got out of the hospital on the 8th. It's been hell ever since. I'm refering to my immediate family members who haven't lifted a finger to help over these past 6 years. I made a promise to my dying father that I would take care of my mother. I'm glad I did, I wouldn't trade the experience or the lessons learned for anything. As a result I've grown closer to my mother. She's related so much family history to me, enough to fill several volumes. But that's another story. My sister is tired of waiting for my mother to die. I don't know how else to put it. While my mother was in ICU she called and told my mother she should sell the house and move up to Alaska to be with her. This goes completely against my mother's wishes. In addition, she contacted the social worker and my aunt. She fixed it up so my mother would be taken from the hospital to my aunt's house which is situated on a very hilly lot. So the first day out of the hospital, against my mother's wishes, she was taken to my aunt's house. Later at 1 AM in the morning I get a call saying that my mother has fallen and could I please come and help her get up. So I got dressed and drove the 20 miles to my aunt's house to help my mother. My aunt by the way is 80. When I got there my mother asked me to take her home where she wanted to be in the first place. So after loading up all the medical equipment, clothes and everything else I drove home. I finally got to bed after 3 AM. Oh, by the way I had to carry my mother up a steep incline to get to the car. Don't you just love social workers! Now my sister got wind of the change. So what does she do? She calls my mother's lawyer and is trying to interfere legally. That gets her nowhere. So she starts calling the out patient health care assistant service claiming that there is elder abuse going on! Keep in mind I take her to at least three doctors a week. I take her to the lab for blood draws. A home care RN shows up twice a week at a minimum for over an hour. Home care assistants drop in regularly to bathe and give my mother a shampoo. But my sister claims there is elder abuse going on! She lives in Alaska mind you. She last saw my mother 5 years ago. So this morning I had two county social workers show up to interview my mother about these abuse allegations. I tell them I'm headed out the door to a 1:30 PM appointment with a doctor. I tell them they will have to come back at another time. They lie to me telling me that all out patients receive visits from their department. Right! And here I am having assisted both parents through two hospitalizations each, no visit from any social worker occurred.
My question is what can I do to keep my sister from making false allegations? My mother was so ticked about the situation that we visited a lawyer to change the will and draw up two different powers of attorney to protect her interests. That cost her $750 to amend the trust and get the durable powers of attorney. Is there some way of getting my sister to cease with her petty actions. Once the new will and other papers are signed I expect WWIII to erupt to be honest. My mother may be 78, but the old girl still has some fight in her! Please advise in all seriousness. As if I don't have enough responsibilities taking care of my mother. Thanks
My question is what can I do to keep my sister from making false allegations? My mother was so ticked about the situation that we visited a lawyer to change the will and draw up two different powers of attorney to protect her interests. That cost her $750 to amend the trust and get the durable powers of attorney. Is there some way of getting my sister to cease with her petty actions. Once the new will and other papers are signed I expect WWIII to erupt to be honest. My mother may be 78, but the old girl still has some fight in her! Please advise in all seriousness. As if I don't have enough responsibilities taking care of my mother. Thanks