Guardianship over nephews.

[mommabearx1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? VA
I have two nephew ages 2 and 1 y.o. I normally keep them in the evening while my sister and her husband work. This morning I went to drop them off before I went to work (I keep them overnight) and no one was home. I took them to my daughter's sitter as drop ins and called my sister. She informs me her and her husband are moving to Arizona and will be back for the boys when they get settled in. Already on the road?? And then click, now I can't get in touch with her or her husband.
I can't do anything not even enroll them at the day care because neither boy has had any immunizations. I am not sure what to do from here??

 

[seniorjudge]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? VA

Mom, we need a wee bit more info.

 

[mommabearx1]

I know I hit tab instead of enter and it posted MY BAD!!

 

[seniorjudge]

Hire a lawyer and get a guardianship over them immediately.

 

[mommabearx1]

Hire a lawyer and get a guardianship over them immediately.

I have a a consult with an Atty at 9 am tomorrow. I spent most of my lunch break at the court house. It has been my experience if I can file things myself and not contact my atty except to go over things before court I can keep my costs at a minimum. I know the boys do not have ANY insurance so I am calling the health department to see what we can do about immunizations and paying out of pokett, however i don't think I can legaly do that? But thankfully my babysitter said they would be fine for right now to get them done as son as possble though (which I though was odd so I will being doing some research on that too)
Thanks judge!

 

[The_Non-Mom]

Not legal advice, but just wanted to say good luck. I know you have your hands full with your own two children, and now it sounds like your nephews will be around for awhile. Take care and stay sane!

 

[mommabearx1]

Not legal advice, but just wanted to say good luck. I know you have your hands full with your own two children, and now it sounds like your nephews will be around for awhile. Take care and stay sane!

Thanks yep two of mine and one on the way Thankfully we are used to having the boys here after I get off work and through the night so it won't be to much of a change in craziness in the house however I cannot promise the bolded!!

 

[wileybunch]

Yeah, geez, good luck and keep us posted (unless you are sleeping next to each of the children each and every time they sleep for the duration of their sleep ).

 

[mommabearx1]

Small update before mtg with Attorney and a little silver lining if you can see it...

I went to my sister and BIL's apartment yesterday to get some stuff for the boys, and it seems as if this has been the plan for quite sometime. Each boy had all their clothes packed into about 3 bags each and diapers & wipes. The frig was split down the middle with each child's food ( 1 year old still eating babyfood milk, and formula) about a week's worth for each. also on the counter was a note, explaing there plan, gave the boys Dr.'s information.and both parent's cell numbers. Which are both disconnected at the moment.

Apparently they were beng evicted and had to be out by this friday according to the note. We ( my father and I) called the paternal grandparents to let them know what was going on as well, they live right down the road an are very active in the boys life, so we felt they needed to know in case their son called them they might be able to get some type of better contact info. Anyway, my parents and the paternal grandparents are in agreement that the boys will be staying with me, and thankfully my parents an the boys other grandparents are spliting the retainer fee, which I couldn't be any more relieved about.
Also a relief, our neighbor is being stationed (he is in the Navy and they are being re-located in TX) He has a very large 4 bed room house on a basement that he is allowing me to rent. Which is great because I was moving into a 3 bdroom town home a few minutes away. So we stay in the same neighborhood about three houses up from my folks!!

Hopefully everything else wil fall into place like this, it is amazing!! But My main hope and prayer is that my sister and BIL come to their senses, hopefully!!
Thanks everyone!! I'm sure I will be back soon

 

[The_Non-Mom]

Wow! Sounds like you have an awesome support system lined up. I'll keep sending prayers, good vibes, karma, etc. your way since they seem to be working. Keep us updated!

 

[mommabearx1]

Atty Mtg.

OK, so me, MG (maternal Gps) and PG (Paternal Gps) went t o the atty mtg this morning. The four of them basically sat back and just listened to waht the atty had to say after I explained everything. Then the PGs told me and atty they had heard from there son this monirng (my BIL) he had called from a hotel in TN and they told him basically the dilemma that they put in considering the boys both need daycare and have no shots and no one can take them to get anything or enroll them for daycare.
To that there wasn't really any response except we felt it would be in their best interest to stay with their aunt until we could figure out what we needed to.

My atty asked if anything was said about this morning's meeting and he told my BIL exactly what we were doing, BIL said " i think that s exactly what you should do. She has our permission to do whatever she feels is best for the boys. Please tell her thanks from us."

My atty said ok so we go ahead and file.
Thankfully I was able to find a babysitter (my friends babysitter) who has two full time openings for the boys since my daughter's sitter doesn't have any full time openings
But they are minutes from each other so it just be to difficult in the mornings haha I have to laugh at that statement all together !!!

Thanks again for everything!!
you guys are GREAT!!

 

[wileybunch]

Did the Dad give any idea of the timeframe until they will be ready to take the kids back?
Are there addiction issues involved?

 

[mommabearx1]

Did the Dad give any idea of the timeframe until they will be ready to take the kids back?
Are there addiction issues involved?

I guess it was the same as my phone call with my sister yesterday morning. They will be back when they are settled to get the boys, and they feel right now they are better off with me. Which I am glad they didn't just up and leave for Arizona with two toddlers and no job or houseing lined up.
No addictions AT all. My sister used to watch my daughter from 6 wks to 2 yrs old and was great with her. It has been difficult with two small children a yr apart and they have had quite a few financial issues, but None of us EVER expected this!! I mean both set of parents would have been able to help them with there eviction had they said something to someone but I just picked the kids up as usual Sunday to keep the throughout the night and wham no one's there the next morning.

 

[mommabearx1]

Small update I guess

So my sister came into town last night. Alls of the kids were alseep (YAY for me) She went to my parents house which is downt eh street from me. Called me from there to tell she was in town. I asked her was she coming back for the to get the boys, and she said no she wasn't really sure if she was even going to be able to see them whiel she was in town.
I told her to let me kno so we could arrange something. Between my two the ten and four year old and the smaller ones things are a little crazy, so I wanted to make sure her boys were well rested fed, and EVERYTHING so that her time with them was the best as possible. Well she got very angry with me and said she would be picking the boys up this evening and taking them back to Arizona with her.

Now I have called my Attny and he is in court all day however his legal ass said to rea the court order, that she could not give me advice (which I knew) but that if the court order says I have temporary guarndship over both boys pending a custodial hearing in April of this year, then she cannot take the boys without my permission.

IS this correct? I want her to see the boys, as much as she wants, I just need to know when, my two children have activities after school, normally only for an hour at a time so it would have to be after that, but I wanted to make sure my sister would have to rested, fed babies to spend time with. I am i wrong and sheould just let her see them and/ or take them. I am aware that she wil get them back at some point but I don't want to just up and take them to AZ if she has nothing out there for them.
I could be looking at this completely incorrectly and would LOVE any advice you all have!!