What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX
I've asked about my friend here previously and she called me this morning with another problem. Just some background, they've now been divorced about a year and a half, and he is now remarried. Her ex previously was very controlling, and earlier this year tried to have her CS checks mailed to his then GF's residence.
I think she needs to talk with her lawyer regarding the stepmom's interference but I need some help convicing her she needs to take some action on this.
1. Stepmom has a history of texting Mom to ask coordinate the parenting times, so Mom has told her she does not want to discuss it with her, but only with Dad but she keeps on.
2. SM has started tagging along with Dad to Dr. appts and will go with to the exam room rather than wait in the waiting room. Mom really doesn't like this but doesn't know how to tell her to stay out without Dad also making a stink.
3. SM will email Mom from a "joint" email box - no way to prove it's her other than the fact the emails are asking about things that were already discussed and finalized with Dad. I told her she should respond to no email if her name is on it as well. SM has also sent her certified mail, which I advised her if it's not from Dad don't pick it up - then SM will email her asking why she hasn't picked up the letter and "you don't care about your son" blah blah.
4. SM is the one providing the health insurance, and is constantly badgering Mom about why the prescriptions weren't filled when they were supposed to be and such. Also, SM keeps insisting that Mom provide THEIR residence on all medical info. Mom refuses to do this because he doesn't reside there. They might have obtained his insurance fraudulently, who knows. From the emails she sends me, I get the feeling Dad and SM are trying to setup Mom and set the stage to ask for sole legal on the basis that Mom is medically negligent or trying to make it look like he's with them and file for custody change based on status quo. Who knows.
5. Mom received an email this morning from SM accusing mom of violating the court order by not notifying THEM of a school field trip to give Dad the change to go or to quote the email "his other parent/legal guardian also should have been given the opportunity as well." I told her that was BS, she's not anything and she needs to go see her lawyer.
I know others here have had problems with overstepping steps. What can she do to get SM to back off and/or hold Dad accountable for the actions of his wife? Does she have grounds to do anything? or should she wait and gather some more?
I've asked about my friend here previously and she called me this morning with another problem. Just some background, they've now been divorced about a year and a half, and he is now remarried. Her ex previously was very controlling, and earlier this year tried to have her CS checks mailed to his then GF's residence.
I think she needs to talk with her lawyer regarding the stepmom's interference but I need some help convicing her she needs to take some action on this.
1. Stepmom has a history of texting Mom to ask coordinate the parenting times, so Mom has told her she does not want to discuss it with her, but only with Dad but she keeps on.
2. SM has started tagging along with Dad to Dr. appts and will go with to the exam room rather than wait in the waiting room. Mom really doesn't like this but doesn't know how to tell her to stay out without Dad also making a stink.
3. SM will email Mom from a "joint" email box - no way to prove it's her other than the fact the emails are asking about things that were already discussed and finalized with Dad. I told her she should respond to no email if her name is on it as well. SM has also sent her certified mail, which I advised her if it's not from Dad don't pick it up - then SM will email her asking why she hasn't picked up the letter and "you don't care about your son" blah blah.
4. SM is the one providing the health insurance, and is constantly badgering Mom about why the prescriptions weren't filled when they were supposed to be and such. Also, SM keeps insisting that Mom provide THEIR residence on all medical info. Mom refuses to do this because he doesn't reside there. They might have obtained his insurance fraudulently, who knows. From the emails she sends me, I get the feeling Dad and SM are trying to setup Mom and set the stage to ask for sole legal on the basis that Mom is medically negligent or trying to make it look like he's with them and file for custody change based on status quo. Who knows.
5. Mom received an email this morning from SM accusing mom of violating the court order by not notifying THEM of a school field trip to give Dad the change to go or to quote the email "his other parent/legal guardian also should have been given the opportunity as well." I told her that was BS, she's not anything and she needs to go see her lawyer.
I know others here have had problems with overstepping steps. What can she do to get SM to back off and/or hold Dad accountable for the actions of his wife? Does she have grounds to do anything? or should she wait and gather some more?
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